Our final goodbye took the form of, You take care of yourself, okay?
We walked away from each other knowing that it was the best for both of us.
But does that mean it was easy?
Omar Lopez
Does the mutual decision of a breakup ever make the hardest decision feel easier?
I wish it did.
However, I think about that line everyone says: The best things in life dont come easy.
Its true; the better future, the happier and healthier relationship, wont just happen.
In the first few weeks after a breakup, hopelessness will take center stage.
Not even the job you love or your supportive circle of friends can get you out of this mindset.
Youll feel trapped and cant breathe.
You feel cheated on by life.
Lets face it, most exes cant be friends.
Believe me, I learned that the hard way.
Dont drag yourself through that.
You will learn to be polite and civil later down the road.
As a person who has known happiness, you will also learn what gratitude looks like.
Happiness makes you a grateful person for the small and big things, and even for all the struggles.
Instead, fight hard to be kind and to love yourself.
When you choose yourself, you come to realize that, first and foremost, you only have yourself.
Whether youre in a relationship or not, you should always come first.
More importantly, youll be open to making new, meaningful relationships again.
You wont feel the same emotions when their name pops up or when you suddenly think of them.
Let time subside your feelings of hopelessness and heartbreak, and let it teach you to choose yourself.
Then you will find that closure and peace to start again.
