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Updated 6 years ago,March 17, 2019
Without question, my cat loves me.
You may laugh when I say it, but its true.
Her affectionate nuzzles and comfortable purrs tell me everything I need to know.
Zohre Nemati
Spoken word or not, Id bet my life on it that she is happy to be my pet.
But, by the same token, Id also know the reverse.
All it requires is following a different set of clues…
Sometimes hearing the words is just a red herring to the underlying truth.
But what are those things?
The answer is simple.
Outlined below are a few giveaway behaviors that, in combination, indicate when its time to walk away.
Especially if every time you mention a hangout to them they sound ultra-enthusiastic about it.
Or perhaps they even take a stab at make you feel bad for asking.
Its all rather ambiguous, such as, We will have to try and do something some other time!
Or they might just put obstacle after obstacle in the way.
If this is the kind of excuse youre hearing, take note.
Although some reasons can be legitimate, its validity depends on the context and frequency surrounding it.
They say one thing and then do another.
Most people only go on the defensive when they have something to hide.
Discussions and debates shouldnt be something to be feared in relationships.
No two people are the same, and reasonable people respect that.
It is also likely to only get worse.
Like bamboo, it will spread thick and fast over every aspect of your relationship until youre emotionally swamped.
No one need sacrifice themselves at the hand of an unreasonable person.
So if you cant nip it in the bud, walk away.
And if you dont know the reason behind it, then its probably something within the other person.
This is not normal!
Unexplained and bizarre behavior is just not on!
They exhibit irrational behavior
Nothing hurts more than feeling like youre constantly under fire with somebody.
That, no matter what you say, the hurtful statements or silent treatment just keeps on coming.
And even if they retract it later with a flimsy, Im sorry, dont accept it!
People that truly love and respect you wont attack you.
They have no agenda.
The effort is solely being made by you
Are you bending over backwards to accommodate this person?
While they sit back and do nothing, youre the only one keeping the relationship alive.
Without you, their breadcrumbs would barely sustain a bird!
A good relationship meets halfway.
The trust has gone
A wise old saying goes, Love without trust is like a river without water.
Thus, once this point is reached, its game over.
Even if theyve not done anything wrong this time, it doesnt matter.
Theyve cried wolf too many times and now you dont believe a word they say.
Truth or otherwise, their words are not enough.
Their past actions have told you another story.
And now that the trust has gone, its never coming back.
Theres a lot to be said for intuition.
Sometimes it really is more about what you feel than what youre told.
Remember, respect is earned, not owed.
Anyone who argues otherwise is best left behind.
