Are you super confused and overwhelmed and not sure what to do next?
Can you ever trust them again?
A very large part of being in a healthy relationship is trust.
Jeffery Erhunse
Without trust, a relationship is doomed to fail.
Your person has had an affair.
They have violated your trust.
Do you think that it’s possible for you to ever learn to trust them again?
Will you be okay when they say they have to work late?
Will you always need to check their phone?
Will you wonder every time you cant account for their whereabouts for a few hours?
Will you be upset whenever you see them talk to someone of the opposite sex?
Can you forgive them?
To forgive an affair involves many pieces.
It means accepting that your person is just a person who makes mistakes.
It means forgiving yourself for missing the signs and accepting that you are not a fool.
It means acknowledging that this is not your fault.
Do you want to still be with them?
If you are reading this article, I am guessing that you still love your person.
My question to you is, do you still like them?
Like them enough to want to still be with them?
The option of leaving just isnt an option, for a variety of reasons.
More miserable than leaving.
Are you staying with them for the wrong reasons?
This is a very important thing to ask yourself.
Why are you choosing to stay with this person?
Because thats what staying with them for the wrong reasons will do.
All of those things that are mentioned above are things that can be dealt with.
Being miserable for the rest of your life will not be.
Have you tried everything?
The wonder if they did everything that they could do before they walked away.
Did they work to trust and to forgive?
Did they perhaps work with a life coach or therapist to process what has happened?
Its not easy to let go of someone you love, even if they have betrayed you.
