Feel proud that you came out on the other side unscathed.
Tell yourself you’re fine.
Remember that loving an idea is not the same thing as loving a person.
Jesse Herzog
Who was never reallyyourseither.
But then again, theywerethere.
Because you still feel them.
In the empty space next to you in your Saturday morning bed.
Stop finding the pain stunning and begin to deny the feelings because it makes them easier to carry.
You know from experience that pain becomes almost light as air if you say it doesnt exist.
It soothes the ache to say it wasnt real.
It takes the edge off to claim that youalsohad one foot out the door.
They were just a few steps ahead, thats all.
But you tell yourself thats okay.
Because they dont owe you anything, including closure.
You were never official.
Feel proud that you came out on the other side unscathed.
Tell yourself youre fine.
Tell your friends youre fine as well.
Act fine and believe it for a while, too.
Say nothing at all.
Let your silence do the talking.
Start to accept that what you hadwasreal, even if it was never labeled as a relationship.
Even if it was only real for you.
Allow yourself the space to honor what you feel.
Feel it all, and feel it deeply.
Give yourself grace that you saw the potential in someone who would never see it through.
Accept that there was so much good to them, but that doesnt mean they were good for you.
Remind yourself of what you actually want.
Remind yourself you deserve those things, too.
