Dealing with a narcissistic player in the dating world can be tough.
They will woo you with lavish dates and plenty of attention and affection.
That is why you must never trust the positive behaviors you see in the first three months.
Katerina Holmes
You cannot trust this will last until youve gotten a sense of someones long-term patterns.
They showed you who they were the minute they treated you with any kind of disrespect or indifference.
Never show all your cards early on.
Narcissists view love and dating as a chess game.
Theyre thesadistic catand youre their chosen prey.
When they ask you what youre looking for, keep it vague.
If they ask you about your traumas or childhood history, do not disclose that either.
They are investigating the weaknesses and vulnerabilities they will later weaponize against you.
Have a strong self-concept before you begin dating anyone.
A narcissist devalues you because they are prone tomalicious envyand a lack of empathy.
Or, they may begin putting you down as soon as they sense youre reciprocating their interest and invested.
To resist these mind games, you have to know how irreplaceable and incredible you truly are.
You have to be in touch with all the qualities that make you special and unique a catch.
You will only look for partners who actively pursue you and add value to your life.
Do your research on a dating partner before you get seriously involved.
Keep a lookout for any people who seem to be hugely engaged with their posts.
Keep your options open always.
The narcissist will purposely go out of their way to provoke jealousy in you to gain power and control.
This has been supported byresearch.
Theyre masters of manufacturing love triangles to keep you vying for them.
Do not be exclusive with someone or give the boyfriend or husband treatment to someone youve just met.
They havent earned that.
Continue to date others and keep other dating options in mind if you wish.
Always lead a fulfilling life outside of dating and relationships and decenter your dating partners.
Narcissists want to create a sense of dependency in you.
Thats how they gain control and isolate you, especially early on in the courting phase.
Do not make even small sacrifices early on in dating.
Instead, develop a habit of keeping communication to a minimum in the beginning.
