The second one is my personal favorite.
Identify and communicate with yourinner parts.
When most of us think of reparenting, we think of nurturing our inner child.
Pavel Danilyuk
But what if I told you that we actually have multiple inner parts that subconsciously affect our behavior?
According to clinical psychologistDr.
This will sound like asking your inner parts questions like, What are you trying to protect me from?
and thanking it for serving its function.
Remind your younger exile inner parts that you will always be there for them and will not abandon them.
Observe what actions each inner part has taken and how they have affected you.
Incorporate safe play.
storytelling, reading, watching our favorite series or a thrilling mystery) or social (e.g.
playing football or video games with our friends).
Dr. Brown identifies eight types of play personalities we may resonate with.
Check in with your inner child and appreciate the happy moments together.
You deserve to reclaim the joy and innocence of a childhood you never had.
Work with the inner critic and identify the harm that was caused.
you could also begin to slowly replace those thoughts with more positive ones.
Recall the healthier feedback youve received throughout your life.
Think often of the abundance of evidenceagainstyour negative thoughts.
Youre allowed to be outraged at the inaccurate distortions youve been taught to believe about yourself.
Grieve the losses of your childhood.
This acknowledgment can be a powerful step on your healing journey.
Narcissistic parents push their children toward self-sabotage and self-neglect.
Check in with yourself daily: are you getting enough rest?
What do you need right now?
How are you feeling?
What can we do today to help you feel better?
Honor and validate all of your emotions especially the uncomfortable ones like anger.
Your anger should not be suppressed: it will tell you when youve been violated.
Its those little habits that remind you that you are worthy of being taken care of.
Get into the habit of speaking to yourself lovingly and gently (i.e.
I know, that was so unfair.It was wrong of them to do that.
You are so worthy and deserving of so much more).
When possible, keep the promises you make to yourself while also allowing room for mistakes to build self-trust.
Build up to the bigger steps.
Congratulate yourself for looking out for yourself.
Celebrate yourself and all your wins big and small.
Refer to that list every day to remind yourself of who you truly are.
You deserve to thrive.
