Don’t say you’re fine if you’re not.
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Updated 6 years ago,October 17, 2019
Give yourself permission to not have all the answers.
Theres no one keeping score but you.
Trung Thanh
you might make decisions.
you’ve got the option to change your mind.
you could be unsure.
it’s possible for you to say, I dont know.
How does it feel?
These questions dont need to feel like tiny grenades on your screen, in your inbox.
Your answers dont need to feel like chains.
Reject hollow, automated, easy-way-out responses.
Dont shackle yourself with words that make you feel less human, less true to yourself.
Accept their love and support and interest.
But release yourself from the burden of having anything figured out if you dont.
Let yourself swim in that.
The water gets warmer after a while.
Dont say youre fine if youre not.
you’re able to be not fine, but not devastated.
Dont say things are good if theyre not.
Things can be hard and complicated and kinda okay but not good.
Black and white are absolute values they exist too, but gray presents in much greater breadth and splendor.
Say youre working through things if you are.
Say youre taking it one day at a time if thats true.
Say that youll say more when you do.
Youre not a robot.
Youre not an autoresponder.
Your words are not binding contracts or public domain.
Give yourself permission to just be honest.
Honesty doesnt have to be pretty.
But itll always be beautiful.
