These are all common cases of projection.
Projecting is when you believe something about the world and then start to see it in other people.
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Updated 6 years ago,June 13, 2019
Have you ever felt like everyone doesnt like you?
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Or maybe people are all judging your style or whether or not you gained weight?
Perhaps youve found yourself judging someone based on their sexual endeavors.
Or maybe you condemned someone for liking something you detest.
Its part of being human.
Become Aware of Your Insecurities and Beliefs
The first step in changing any behavior is awareness.
To become aware of your actions, Id suggest keeping physical track of them.
Maybe write them down in a notebook or on the Notes app in your phone.
Youd be surprised how quickly we can think of something and then completely forget it.
Why do you think that person is less than?
Why do you think that the stranger didnt like you?
Re-frame the situation into a belief.
I believe that people who go out every night are careless.
I believe that people dont think Im interesting.
The more specific, the better.
Once youre aware of your beliefs, you’re free to start to work through them.
Consider Why They Exist
Your beliefs exist because of the life youve lived.
Either way, if theyre causing negative actions, theyre not serving you anymore.
Changing a deeply engrained life-long habit is going to take time, so lets take this in baby steps.
In fact, you actually believe that they think youre dumb in general.
That perhaps, your own belief on how smart you are influenced how you perceived your co-workers reactions.
That may be our beliefs are actually altering the interactions we have with other people.
Maybe your co-worker doesnt think youre dumb.
Perhaps he was tired or didnt care about the project in general.
Or maybe, he actually did love your ideas.
Not every verbally expresses everything theyre thinking.
Insecurities and beliefs took a lifetime, your literal lifetime, to form in your psyche.
Theyre not an easy thing to change.
In some cases, your assumptions could be accurate.
If youre worried a partner is cheating on you, that could be the case.
But it is worth considering if youre projecting an insecurity of not being enough onto them first.
The mind is a powerful place, so much so that it shapes our reality.
Luckily, we have a bit of control over what it creates for us.
Working through the psychological act of projecting will have profound effects on your life in numerous aspects.
