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Updated 5 years ago,December 11, 2019
Have you recently had an affair?
Or are you perhaps are you in the middle of one?
If you are, I know youre struggling looking for ideas for surviving infidelity as the cheater.
MR WONG
Let me help you do the same.
Know that you are only human.
One thing that we all forget about is thatwe are only human.
People who have affairs are people who are often not happy with their lives.
They dont feel good about themselves and/or they are struggling to find happiness with their partner.
You are only human.
You are going to make mistakes.
You are not alone in the world.
Plenty of other people are having affairs right now and feeling the same sort of guilt you are.
We all make bad choices sometimes, and none of us should be forever condemned for it.
Know that its not all your fault.
I know you think that this affair is all your fault.
Yes, you did that.
But you didnt do it in a void.
And they arent the only person in that relationship.
Relationships consist of two people, and two people are responsible when relationships start to suffer.
Perhaps your husband works all the time and you are lonely.
Or perhaps your wife has become detached and refuses to talk to you.
You feel like youve tried to fix things but you havent had much success.
Most people dont intend to have affairs.
And they happen when people are vulnerable.
And then infidelity happened.
What was going on in his relationship that gave him the space to have an affair?
He responded by saying, Nothing.
My wife is perfect and the affair was all my fault.
So just attempt to understand that your affair is not all your fault.
Understanding that will help you manage the guilt that you are struggling with.
Another source of excellent help are others who have also survived infidelity.
Only people who have experienced infidelity can really understand what its all about.
Find a support group for people who have survived infidelity.
The sharing could change your life.
c’mon, reach out today.
Dont go through this alone.
The key piece of surviving the guilt of infidelity is to stop being unfaithful.
The only way to stop truly feeling guilty about having an affair is to stop having one.
I know, I know.
Thats way easier said than done.
Its the same thing with a marriage that has been rocked by infidelity.
The rocking doesnt have to cause the ship to sink.
Imagine how good it would feel to be back in your relationship, safe, solid and happy.
How great would that be?
it’s possible for you to do it!
