The one thing we need to understand is that letting go of someone to an entirety is almost impossible.
You realize that a person youve come to count on over the years is actually not good for you.
It can hit you out of nowhere and knock the wind out of you.
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What follows is a whirlwind of emotions, some that you probably cant even name.
The sensible thing to do would be to weigh the pros and cons of keeping someone in your life.
You see, weve been taught certain things ever since we were children.
If something burns you, you jerk away from it.
If something pricks at you, you draw your hand away.
Unfortunately though, as adults, weve never learned to interpret those lessons successfully.
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What happens when you realize that someone is toxic, for instance?
What happens when you know that holding on will only hurt you further?
The idealistic answer will be, to let that person go.
The honest answer is that more often than not, we do nothing.
We have a go at hug the proverbial cactus with the naive hope that its barbs wont hurt us.
But when it comes to following up on it, we fail, and fail miserably.
I think it has a lot to do with the kind of people we are.
The undeniable truth, however, is that everyone has a breaking point.
And when you reach it, things can turn ugly faster than you realize.
There is no correct way to tell someone you dont want them around anymore.
Thinking it through and sticking to your decision.
You may want to rethink the implications of saying a goodbye for good.
This will make you feel something an awful lot like regret, only its not.
Remind yourself of all the reasons why youre breaking free, and dont look back.
Being polite but firm while severing ties.
Goodbyes are never easy, and permanent ones even less so.
There will be temper tantrums and emotional outbursts, tearful sobbing and shrieks and screaming.
Keep a level head through this process.
Remember that the power lies with you, and therefore you must remain balanced.
If both you and the person in question lose your cool, it is a definite recipe for disaster.
Remember that it is never wrong to choose to walk away from pain.
It is never wrong to choose happiness, even at the cost of a relationship.
It is never wrong to trust your gut and do whats right for you.
You are not responsible for anyone elses happiness.
Reminding yourself that some people are not full stops, they are just commas.
If someone is dragging you down, its time to unshackle yourself from them.
Even if that means walking away.
Not forcing yourself to move on immediately.
Of course youre going to miss them, and theyre going to miss you back.
Dont avoid them completely.
Ultimately, moving away is never easy.
Letting go of someone to an entirety is impossible.
The one thing we need to understand is that letting go of someone to an entirety is almost impossible.
