Forget love and light.
Youve just survived a war zone and now just want to survive the aftermath.
Its true that the ultimate focusshouldbe on healing.
Emma Wise
Forget everything society has taught you so far about the right way to heal and what you should feel.
Forego the idea that healing can never be joyful and must always be brutal.
Put that on pause.
One powerful way to get yourself motivated to heal is by gamifying your goals.
For example, a smaller goal of healing may be going for a 15-minute walk in the morning.
A bigger goal may be starting a gym routine.
Soon, your healing milestone will become a radical and ingrained part of your well-being regimen.
Replace self-sabotaging behaviors with a level-up and glow up activity.
Piggybacking off this, ensure that you are taking an inventory of the habits that harm you.
Fuel whatever anger you have toward the ways they degraded you into your glow up and level up goals.
Over time, replacing your self-sabotaging behaviors with these micro-habits will allow you to flourish.
It will also communicate to your subconscious that you feel worthy and deserving of self-care rather than punishment.
Turn the tables on the energy exchange that has benefited the narcissist throughout the relationship.
Visualize connecting your joy with their karma so that youre more inclined to pursue your happiness.
Now its time to turn the tables energetically speaking.
It will remind you that the benefit comes from upleveling yourself and not remaining stagnant in that old energy.
However, success and leveling up tends to be the best revenge there is.
But it takes some work to get there.
There are times we need that extra motivation to keep going.
Build an unbreakable self-concept.
When survivors are healing from narcissistic abuse, they often worry thattheythemselves are a narcissist.
These are false accusations and projections from the narcissist that they used to keep you small.
You are not self-centered or selfish for acknowledging your strengths and positive traits.
You are embodying the self-concept and power they were afraid you were going to own all along.
Do not filter yourself this exercise is to empower you.
You may not be at the part of your journey yet where you are grounded in self-validation.
You will get there.
An abusive relationship with a narcissist trains you to always compare yourself to others and forget who you are.
Its time to remind yourself that you have no competition.
Treat yourself like royalty someone who should not settle for less.
You will no longer feel the need to have them in your life or crave their validation.
Call back your power through more realistic affirmations.
Anger is considered practically demonic, especially inwomenwho are socialized to stay quiet as they endure numerous transgressions.
Affirmations can be a powerful way to call back your power on a daily basis.
You dont have to censor yourself.
I am amazing and irreplaceable.
Incorporate both types of affirmations into your recovery routine.
Visualize your power coming back to you, touching every aspect of your life.
Remember, not all of your affirmations need to be strictly love and light.
You dont have to engage in anything youre not comfortable with or anything that isnt safe for your healing.
Words as well as actions hold the power to define yourself and your reality.
They can train you to fight back and regain control and mastery over your life.
You deserve to be victorious and to be the winner of your life.
