We start seeing repeating patterns and eventually take on the challenge of working on them.
Maybe you are thinking, Great, I get it.
I know my biggest lessons in relationships.
Greg Rakozy
But I still have the painful memories and emotions stored in my body.
How will I get to enjoy my current relationship while I carry all this history?
Without awareness, we would create another issue that hits all the same pain points.
Our healing begins with awareness and acceptance and by giving permission and healthy expression to our feelings.
This increases our personal power, because allowing ourselves to feel our true emotions is practicing self-love.
It is a natural reaction to want to keep your hand off the stove once youve been burned.
This is even truer if we have active wounds around connection and intimacy.
It gives them a buffer zone in their hearts to reduce the pain of a potential future abandonment scenario.
But this is not a perfect world and our parents are not the Jetsons.
While these mechanisms once served a purpose, they are now obstacles to deep connection and unconditional love.
They tell us that we are great students who adapted brilliantly to less than perfect circumstances.
They dont say that we are broken.
Sometimes these events occur during our younger years in life.
Some of these patterns may cause our partner to feel rejected, unwanted, or abandoned.
It can become a wound if we dont recognize and verbally (and behaviorally) repair the damage.
I was feeling lonely and didnt know how to express it.
Without having forgiveness for each others humanness, the relationship will die.
What needs to be forgiven is the way we have adapted to the wound.
That is what needs an upgrade.
We also need to be willing to be a nonjudgmental and compassionate receiver of our partners story.
It will give us insights into their vulnerabilities and where they will need to be kissed and forgiven.
This is our point of power.
This is the path to our freedom.
May you find the healing you are looking for.
