You cant get over a breakup until you let the breakup happen.
Unfortunately, most of us get stuck in a blame cycle where we obsess instead of letting go.
We cycle through the same feelings again and again and wonder why its taking us so long.
This is a list of mistaken beliefs its common to find yourself holding after a breakup.
A smile is measurable, tears are measurable.
You dont have to pretend that it was nothing.
Avoiding this admission only prolongs the icky breakup feelings.
If you do this, youll end up comparing your innermost hurts and failures to someone elses highlight reel.
Remember that your past relationships probably looked perfect to some people on the outside too.
Your worth is not up for debate.
You are worthy just by virtue of existing.
This isnt about there being unworthy because then no one in a relationship would ever feel unworthy.
They dont mistreat you because you deserve it.
The same goes for someone who mistrusts all their partners: they will find a reason to mistrust you.
You dont have to turn your ex into a monster villain in your head, but just be realistic.
Dont build them up just because you cant have them anymore.
You think youll never meet someone so smart/outdoorsy/attractive/politically engaged/rich/good with your kids again.
Whatever it is that made them special is now a cement block holding you in place.
You have to trust.
Put one foot in front of the other.
