They opt instead to choose to protect their well-being.
Here is what women have to say:
My peace is so valuable to me.
I am so happy!
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Piper
Choosing singlehood has taken away the distractions that I felt were a need in life.
Ive built up so much in a short period of time that Im so proud of.
I did the work and pushed through to be better on my own.
I tried dating at one point this year and it took away from my life more than anything.
I dont want to date anyone and I feel more comfortable with that decision now than ever before.
Its just not for me.
Ramon Samborskyi
Amanda
I am choosing to not care about finding someone at this time.
I honestly dont want to find anyone at this point.
Im now choosing to give my kids the happy energetic mom they have always deserved.
Roman Samborskyi
I am able to because Im not bending over backwards for everyone else.
Alex
I did my healing.
I healed from my divorce and from my abuser.
I am here to live life, happily, beautifully and in the manner that I define successfully!
Maru
I know so many amazing single, straight women and so very few decent single, straight men.
Theres also no real way to meet organically anymore.
Ive made some connections here and there and then mostly have gotten ghosted.
Lauren
Ive spent over half my life putting my energy into love and men.
7 serious monogamous relationships since I was 15 years old.
As an 80s baby, growing up in the Disney princess era we werent taught that.
Finally, my last relationship with an insane narcissist broke me of my love addiction and codependency.
Sadly it had to go that far and I had to learn the hard way.
So now I am in my healing, true self-love, and get the bag era.
Ive seen what my love can do for others what can it do for ME?
Im ready to find out!
Im the object of my affection now and it feels so good.
Its better to be single than it is to be undermined by someone who isnt nearly as accomplished.
I find it difficult to manage for many reasons.
They say they want a relationship, but they dont.
They want casual, which is fine, but they dont say that up front.
It becomes draining and heartbreaking.
Im starting to wonder if that is intimidating to a lot of men.
As Ive healed myself, Ive realized how few people truly get me and arent toxic in some way.
So, Im focusing on myself and my family and life.
Im not interested in taking care of another person ever again.
I think many women who have worked on themselves just arent settling anymore.
Women are smart and more resourceful than ever.
The power differential is changing.
Men have to realize its a different relationship world and women have no time for nonsense.
Im done being traumatized.
I cant take any more relational or sexual trauma.
No man or relationship has made my life better but has almost seemed to actively work against me.
I am healthier in every way on my own so far in life.
Bethany
I realized I was happy and complete on my own.
This narrative is incredibly false and damaging!
We are what make ourselves happy and complete.
We are enough and always have been.
I value the connection with my children and watching this grow and deepen.
I greatly treasure the depth of the friendships I share with my girlfriends.
I serve in my community and find this fulfilling.
There is a lot of unhealthiness out there.
VM
Any temptation is not worthy of interacting with unawakened and insensitive people.
Also, life is beautiful and ought to be lived with self-respect without any compromise.
I am practicing gratitude for what I have.
Murshiquaa
Because I now place value on my time and protect it fiercely.
Im not letting anyone do that again.
Julia
I met someone online.
He seemed perfect at first!
He moved fast, came on strong and I fell in love.
He love-bombed me and begged me to marry him!
The longer we dated, I found out he wasnt truthful!
It was like an onion and I was peeling the layers.
He was married and was living with his wife!
He lied about so many things with ease during the two years we dated.
It was second nature to lie!
Eventually he moved into his own apartment and we continued to see each other.
The longer we dated, the more I learned and the less I wanted to be with him.
I found out and ended the relationship.
You never know what you are getting with online dating!
Yes, some relationships are successful.
But none of the women I know that have been online have anything positive to say.
There are mostly scammers, liars and cheaters in my opinion and thats just sad.
You cant be faint of heart and be in the dating pool these days!
Best of luck to all my sisters out there!
My mom would say theres a lid for every kettle!
I think I flipped mine.
Sharon
Men are not worth the high risk for disappointment.
I feel stronger and happier than ever.
Diggy
High quality men were already a minority in my 20s.
At 50, Ive not met one in 7 years.
Its not about what they can offer me thats better than my ex.
Its whether they can offer me better than what Im currently supplying to myself.
Life is peaceful being single.
I want to get back to myself after literal years of toxic abuse from family and partners.
to make it not repeat these cycles with my child, I must heal myself.
Healing can only happen if Im not distracted.
But I love myself and my child more.
Dev
I went on a dating hiatus after years of being mistreated by men.
I was in a relationship with an abusive alcoholic, emotionally unavailable men, and a cheater.
The common trend amongst the majority of these men, was manipulation and deceit.
My experience with dating changed cataclysmically from that day forward.
I feel as though more women are refusing to settle for less than they deserve.
That is why I stopped dating.
Lydia
When I was much less self-assured, my lack of self-worth led me to many toxic partners.
I cant believe what I put up with and thought it was love.
The peace and self-discovery are so addictive right now that I cant imagine letting a romantic interest in.
Post-pandemic, more women are leavinghookup cultureand dating apps to reclaim their power.
For straight women, dating apps are like being thrown into a pool of frenzied piranhas.
Its giving their only natural predator, men, easier access to their prey.
I felt like I was being in a lake of swarming narcissistic, sexaholic, maniac crocodiles.
I would never ever do this again in my entire life.
Mae
I tried it twice.
These people arent vetted and anyone can set up a profile.
Jacquie
Mens entitlement creates abusiveness and allows for a lack of awareness.
I wasnt put on this earth to be powerless and fix the misogyny created by men for men.
Im here to be fully myself, my strong and beautiful self!
I dont believe I can do that in a heterosexual relationship.
If you cant add to my peace, then leave me alone.
I am tired of not knowing.
And I feel so good, so free and light and happy when its just me.
I know how to love myself and I truly enjoy my own company.
If someone is not adding to my life, theyre simply subtracting and nobody got time for that.
Toni
I want to be money making!
Going back to school for my J.D.
They want us to be feminine but push us into a masculine role.
I am going to make bank and travel the world.
I dont want to mix finances at this point in my life, anyway.
Many of my female friends agree.
We all own our $650k+ homes and were just fine never cohabitating with a significant other.
Ill kick ass, take names, and make my own coin.
Lisa
I felt like an item on the shelf or an option on these apps.
There was no connection.
Men were filtering and did not seem serious.
Javeria
Im a family therapist that works with teens, adults, and couples.
Younger women also report inequities in their relationships with men, i.e.
Linda
They have put me off for life.
I cant comprehend how they think a pic of their appendage is a way of making a connection.
Tina
I refuse to be their banker or their mommy!
Rebecca
Misogyny is at an all-time high.
Christy
Romance is dead.
Mancy
Men have over time developed the nature of women.
They need to be pursued.
They have no ability for self-control or focus in this age of instant click and gratify.
I dont want to be needed or depended upon any longer.
My last relationship was with a woman and I have been single and celibate for the past 5 years.
Mandy
I am not necessarily anti-men, I am anti-patriarchy.
Im not necessarily opposed to dating men, but I havent met anyone yet who I want to date!
I guess he would have to be anti-patriarchy as well.
Aimee
I choose singlehood because the men arent all that!
At that time you find they werent worth the time or energy!
Cindi
My friend is a fraud investigator.
She can pick up on nuances in dating app profiles.
For example, she reported many prospects who copied job descriptions from reliable sources.
She figured it out when she asked about their jobs, they didnt have the proper response.
Not to mention the MGTOW and red pill movement…creating pick up artists!
These needs and wants simply dont align.
Considering those two factors, I choose to no longer bother with them.
My girlfriends ALWAYS make me feel safe.
That means he likes you a narrative that needs to stop being taught to young boys.
Mandy
Dating online has become a traumatizing shit show.
You have to be extremely secure and confident to get through it unscathed.
Gillian
I know my worth and none of these men live up to that.
Jen
Im in couple with myself.
Taking care of my needs, and of my dreams.
It feels more like shopping based on extremely superficial criteria.
Accountability is at an all-time low, and women prefer solitude to raising a man.
Ive never felt more alone than in the arms of the wrong man.
He already shows more empathy at 3 years old than most men I know.
Charlotte
I have had too many issues with attracting the narcissists and sociopaths.
Its easier to be single and save myself from harm.
I like my peace and serenity.
I love the joy of knowing that I am safe.
Daana
I dont need a man.
I raise my child.
It seems like more of a pain in the ass to be with one than to be without one.
Sara
Done with gaslighting, lying, cheating, and two timing.
Wendy
Too many frogs, not enough Princes.
I just cant be bothered.
I have a lot of friends and great family.
35 years with a supreme narcissist took all the fun out of a relationship.
Caroline
I have loved twice since my precious husband unexpectedly passed away in 2018.
My husband and I were high school sweethearts, and I was unfamiliar with the dating scene.
No time for the folly associated with modern-day dating.
I was in a terrible relationship for almost 2 years.
He as an awful person.
So, I am taking my time, working on my Masters in social work.
I have been celibate for 7 months.
The first week there, I found out I was pregnant.
2 weeks later I had a miscarriage.
I stayed with him because I didnt know anyone else.
For a year, he broke up with me 2-3 times a month.
I finally said, sure, the last time.
He never even checked back in with me and still hasnt.
When we had intercourse, he slapped me in the face without my consent.
I decided after those episodes that I wanted to be celibate.
I have stuck to it (very easily) and havent entertained dating.
Nor do I want to.
Hot and cold… hell no.
Thats just mind games.
Ive been hit on twice by guys who had girlfriends.
Also hell no, I dont think Im naive enough to think that wont be me down the line.
I got hit on by a guy who wanted to trauma dump about his ex also no.
I dont want to be your nurse or your mommy.
Another person Im genuinely interested in: hints are great but I wont act on them.
None of this bare minimum to keep you interested bullshit.
Ashley
Because nobody wants to be emotionally available or get to know anyone beyond a surface or casual level.
Aneisha
I experienced relationships, most of them with narcissists, hindsight tells me.
I just couldnt bother being in a romantic relationship anymore.
Im on my own, but Im not alone.
I have many friends, and a few family members I like.
I accept that my life will end with me and Ill be forgotten after death.
I enjoy life right here, right now.
Gloria
Just physically and mentally tired.
Id rather concentrate on getting me and my kids and build and focus on that joy.
Just trying to enjoy my life and my family and friends.
After my divorce and a few toxic relationships after, I realized the only constant was me.
Thus began my healing journey.
Ive taken the past two years to focus on myself.
I then fell in love with myself.
Ive learned to love my own company and protect my peace and my energy.
Ive shifted focus to my home, career, finances, children, and physical and mental health.
If I find a partner who compliments my life, great.
If not, thats great too.
My value and self-worth is no longer defined by a relationship with a man.
To where I finally realized my worth and set boundaries.
Where I finally fell in love with myself.
Just being alone with ME!
After leaving a toxic relationship, youre just over dating completely.
Kimberly
I have broken the generational curses in my family.
I am actively healing my childhood trauma and no longer see myself as a survivor.
I am incompatible with any trauma bonds and low vibrational frequencies.
I now emit a different frequency that is attracting/manifesting a specific individual on the same wavelength.
I am single because, I am patient, and I deserve an Emperor worthy of me.
Why are we conditioned to couple at age 3 or 4 when males arent?
Im happier on my own having tried it all!
And most of my married female friends say they wish they had my single life.
Reciprocity is important, unless its a charitable contribution.
In all my relationships.
Interaction with cishet men doesnt align with these priorities.
I live in authenticity and liberty.
Bel
Men just dont value women.
They want to use and control them.
We have to be a slave for them, but not be respected.
Or maybe Im not worth their time.
Alex
Spiritually, I need to focus on my relationship with God.
My love life is His to manage, not me.
God is my first love…maybe even my last.
Cristina
Its nice after being married (and undervalued) for 20 years, to just be.
I control the remote.
I exist as a person, not as an object.
I am in charge, solely, of my finances.
I am in my power.
I am also an extroverted introvert.
I was a sharing and caring partner, but not sure if I could be again.
I find few men (at my age) share my tastes, passions.
I am in my authenticity… Im happy here.
I come and go as I just, and am not ever seeking approval, physically or otherwise.
The male ego turns me off.
My girlfriends are amazing people and I save a lot on razors.
Jana
I am on my own for the first time in life.
But I no longer wait with a tension in my shoulders and a pit in my stomach.
I dont wait for validation from someone that I thought loved me.
I dont put energy into someone who gives me less than minimum respect and courtesy!
I DO self-care, self-love, and take care of my own things!
I understand that my satisfaction in completing tasks, is my own validation and appreciation.
I now, have learned, to respect MYSELF.
I tolerate, nothing less than that, from others!
Michelle
Because I know my worth and have decided to place my efforts into myself.
Tessa
I have zero desire to compromise the peace I work hard to achieve every day.
Have not dated and have no desire to do so.
Lora
Boyfriends are a lot of work, and all the sexy ones are players.
Diane
I am choosing me first.
