“So what are you looking for?”
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Updated 6 years ago,January 25, 2019
So what are you looking for?
Im looking for a relationship.
Alexandru Acea
Thats what I want.
I want to not feel so vulnerable when I talk to them.
When I get involved with a guy, Im usually hesitant to ask questions about what they want.
within the first five minutes of conversation.
But at the same time, whywouldntI ask that?
I want to know the answer, dont I?
I mean like, my eyes hurt from looking at my phone screen and swiping left and right.
I was going to be super honest on these appswholeheartedly myself in every aspect with no reservations.
Are guys on dating apps looking for a casual hookup or a serious relationship?
I needed to know.
I went to Tinder first, just to get it out of the way.
I had to give myself a little pep talk like,hey, just swipe on literallyanydude.
So after quite some time, I got one.
Match #1:
This one actually made me a little nervous because he was pretty cute.
27 years old and with a bunch of tattoos.
Yeah, I was disappointed, but honestly not surprised.
Match #2:
This 24 year-old was a cutie.
He was pretty engaging in conversation which was nice.
His honestly, I dont know response felt genuine to me.
Match #3:
Alright relax, buddy.
Match #4:
My first impression of this guy?
Something about him seemed…off.
The whole consider a relationship and I just dont want to lead anyone on felt weird to me.
Match #5:
Something about his last two messages felt weird to me.
You look really amazing.
I would love to give a try with you.
…Weve sent three messages back and forth before I asked this question.
How do you know already that youd want to try a relationship with me?
I dont know, dude.
So lets go to Hinge.
…this guy was onto me.
Okay but for real, we started to have good conversation after that.
Until he just stopped answering.
This was a little more unexpected.Hewanted to know whatIwanted?
I didnt respond to his messages but he still felt the need to send me his phone number.
Sorry dude, Im not gonna text you.
This conversation was just forscience.
I hate being a hopeless romantic.Of courseI got all mushy at that response.
He was genuine, I think.
Thank u tho, next!
….at least he was honest?
Or maybe this is sarcasm?
I noticed that my matches and conversations on Tinder happened a lot quicker than the ones on Hinge.
I want a relationship and I made that clear in some of the conversations with my matches.
It was pretty hard to find someone who said they wanted the same thing.
If youre reading this and youre looking to download a dating app, just do it.
Its fun to talk to people and you dont have to marry the next person you match with.
But if youre someone who is looking for a relationship, dont be afraid to tell your matches that.
Some guys might want the same thing.
They might surprise you.
But before you download the apps, ask yourself: what are you looking for?
What do you want?
