Heres what these experiences taught me:
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Dating like a man was at first, admittedly, a high.
It taught me how much fun men were having and wereallowedto have without judgment in our society.
I remember being at work and texting several of these guys at once within the same hour.
There was never any shortage of witty banter, flirty interactions or fun dates during those months.
I was on a perpetual rollercoaster of highs and lows, not knowing what would happen next.
It was unpredictable and it was a much needed break from my routine life of work and school.
I would go on multiple dates a week: to sexy speakeasies, cool bars, clubs and restaurants.
I danced, I drank, I laughed, I enjoyed myself.
Every night was an adventure and each first kiss or hookup was electrifying.
Ill admit it: it was great.
I had my fun without stepping over the line to having actual sex.
Having multiple dates with each person allowed me to get to know their personality without fast-forwarding the physical process.
Isnt that how many men in our society have been dating all along?
I understand why society has such a resistant attitude towards women dating multiple men.
Its because its afraid of the power it gives us.
If women dated like men did, it would place them back in the drivers seat.
Yet as women, we are taught to wait.
Wait for the phone call.
Wait for the text back.
Wait for a guy to make the first move or to call us his girlfriend.
We are always perpetually waiting whiletheyare out living.
Every woman should know what its like to stop waiting.
It was a baffling double standard.
It made me wonder: what would a world where women were taught to just themselves first look like?
Unfortunately, that honesty backfired.
One of them even claimed, Ill bet I am more attractive and smarter than these guys, defensively.
I was also losing touch with whoIwas and questioning what this meant about my own character.
What was an exciting experiment also became cause for internal conflict and self-doubt.
Did it even matter?
Why should I care?
Dating multiple men was a thrill, but at the end of the day, it was admittedly exhausting.
It increased the potential for chaos and it created a lot of drama that didnt need to be there.
That doesnt mean I would never do it again.
It was an important part of my journey and crucial to my self-discovery.
Lets face it, if youre not exploring new things in your early twenties, youre not living.
