We married three months later.
This time was filled with passion and excitement.
It felt like something straight out of a romance novel.
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But, it was real.
And because it was real, that period of utter euphoria didnt last.
What followed was a life altering period of development and growth.
But to get to this point, it required work and exploration.
While reflecting on our approaching six years of marriage, Ive found there are six things that Ive learned.
Address Your Past Hurts
We all have baggage.
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We bring around baggage from childhood scars, issues with our parents, family members, or past partners.
The thing is, our experiences shape who we are and our view of the world.
Its necessary to examine what, if anything, from your past is coming out in your relationships.
Verbalize Your Needs
First you have to know your needs so you can express them.
Because otherwise, you could start feeling unfulfilled in your relationships.
There will be arguments.
Each person will offend the other.
You will be hurt.
And its also helpful to give our partners the benefit of the doubt.
Maybe they forgot to make the bed because theyre thinking about work.
Its really not helpful to assume the worst.
Over time, you get comfortable and fall into the normalcy of life.
We also value sharing new experiences together, it keeps us out of the mundane.
And you dont always have to leave your city.
Conflict Is Good
I used to think that conflict was bad.
But thats far from the truth.
Healthy conflict can allow you to strengthen your relationships and understand people better.
Of course, thats healthy conflict.
In relationships, there are two very different people with different experiences and values.
There are bound to be times when you disagree.
So, we can use these moments to understand each other better and strengthen the relationship.
