Be sure that you fully understand your own worth.
Theres a reason why the best negotiation tactic in the world is walking away from the table.
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Updated 7 years ago,August 26, 2018
Fear of commitment is a real thing.
Tanja Heffner
Not everyone fears it, but most people do.
Im sure plenty of you have been there before.
You put in effort to convince someone to go out on a date with you.
Tanja Heffner
You fall in love.
You spend happy months or years together, creating memories and growing together.
Then, as if out of some blind spot, you realize where things are headed.
Who thought that getting exactly what you wished for could cause you so much confusion, sadness and pain?
I didnt understand it back then, but I get it now.
I, like most of you reading this, love ideas more than reality.
I love the constant search for something anything better.
I base my life and reality on one simple, gnawing question: What if?
What if, you wonder, this person isnt the one?
What if this is a mistake?
What if you really dont know better?
What if youre going to miss out on something perfect?
What if he isnt enough for me?
youve stumbled upon your first undeniable, unrelenting truth: You are not enough.
Its a difficult idea to fully comprehend.
We feel like were enough until the moment we realize whats missing.
You are alone in this world until youre not.
And the only way to not be alone is to be connected.
Not all of us are ready to make such a connection and Im not just talking about romantic relationship.
I was honestly planning to give you a list of all the signs that a guy isnt into you.
But I decided not to.
I have two reasons: One is that Ive already written plenty on the topic before.
And the other is that it ultimately doesnt matter whether or not a man is into you.
The fact is that he isnt ready to commit.
Theres absolutely nothing you’re free to do to change a mans mind.
I know thats the last thing you want to hear, but you gotta hear it.
When a guy isnt ready to commit, nothing on earth can change his mind.
You arent capable of convincing people that theyre wrong, and you shouldnt even try.
You could give him time, and maybe he will come around to his own senses.
The choice is up to you.
What I will say, however, is this: Be sure that you fully understand your own worth.
Theres a reason why the best negotiation tactic in the world is walking away from the table.
Youre dedicated to the relationship only because you want to be.
And youre around only until you choose not to be.
