I was always the one who texted first.
They never actually initiated contact with me.
Took me forever to realize that obviously they were more important to me than I was to them.
Ethan Hoover
She unloaded all her problems on me and never listened in return.
Nothing is ever her fault.
3.They used me as a rain coat meaning they barely acknowledged me while their actual friends were present.
4.She would talk shit about ALL of her best friends.
These were people who loved her.
And she would constantly just put them down behind their backs.
I cant even imagine the shit she would probably say about me.
One day I said the wrong thing, I guess, and she completely dropped me.
It was then I realized that I dodged a HUGE bullet.
5.One-upping you, and shutting you down.
She snaps, Wow too bad for you, Ive done that every day for a week!
If theyre randomly rude and cutting towards you for no reason, they arent your friend.
They resent you, and arent mature enough to just cut you off.
Do yourself a favor and find another friend.
7.Would lie and manipulate me into thinking that my other friends hated me.
8.She only calls me for advice, which she doesnt follow, EVER.
I recently found out that she calls at least 5-6 people to talk about her problems.
She asks them for advice, which she ignores.
She just likes the attention.
She calls us all back and has us comfort her when her world implodes after ignoring our advice.
11.They only wanted to drink.
Before I knew it I was getting drunk 3-4 times a week.
Its an easy trap to get pulled into.
12.Everybody she knew was out to get her but not me because I was special.
13.I was always the one who texted first.
They never actually initiated contact with me.
Took me forever to realize that obviously they were more important to me than I was to them.
It was exhausting, and eventually I just stopped contacting her.
She never contacted me again, so I guess the feeling was mutual.
16.They would talk about me behind my back.
It made every interaction with them feel fake.
Eventually you cant put up a facade anymore.
17.Nothing was ever her fault, I was always the one coming to her to apologize after a fight.
18.Clinginess, like… excessive.
Shed call me every day and spin yarn for hours.
Okay, I get it, we have jobs and lives to keep tabs under.
Responsibilities are okay to have and keep track of and Ill never fault you for it.
Yet, Ive still found time for people, but nobody has returned the benefit.
21.I was just never invited.
22.Only ever complained about EVERYTHING, only talked about herself, always in a bad mood.
23.Tell her something confidentially, next day our other friend knows about it.
All of us thought he was just going through tough times and that it would pass.
Sadly, as it turned out, it was away of lifefor him.
We wanted to believe in him and ignored the red flags.
Didnt respect boundaries, waited all of a week to hop in with my toxic ex.
26.When she disagreed with me, she would put ME down, not my opinion.
She didnt attack my arguments or what I liked/believed, but me.
27.Not feeling comfortable being honest without an overreaction.
Always walking on eggshells.
28.For me, its flakiness.
My birthday is in the middle of summer and I live in the desert.
At the time it was well over 100 F every day.
I should have paid more attention because those fibs turned into bold face lies and two-facedness.
32.She would dismiss my knowledge and experience all the time.
She would also get angry if I got any praise from lecturers in front of her.
34.I was THE last resort friend and it was a position I did not like being in.
35.She hit me all the time for varying reasons.
We had been friends since I was two and she was three so I thought this was normal.
36.She gossiped about our other friends and other people way too much.
She loved getting information on people and would hang out with them just to do so.
37.A genuine lack of support or purposeful negativity about my passions.
39.She liked to test me.
and then called me out for not noticing, etc.
40.She would call me and talk nonstop about her made up drama for 30 minutes and then say bye.
The only word I would ever say washello.
41.Couldnt take any sort of criticism without acting like he was being personally attacked.
Would often answer with simply cant or no.
Ok, actually prefer this to a lame excuse, but rude.
43.He was always the victim in the shitty situations he ended up in.
Turns out he was just a manipulative liar.
Beware of people who lie.
If they talk badly about others to you, they are bad mouthing you to them.
46.When you are obviously the one who cares more about the friendship.
If you would drop everything to hang out, and they flake on you constantly, its probably toxic.
When she didnt need my help, she almost never replied to my messages.
Also, she kept going on about how unfair life was and how everyone was an asshole to her.
49.The constant put-downs/insults that are only jokes.
