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Updated 4 years ago,June 11, 2021
We hear about toxic personalities all the time.
But toxicity can be so much more than that.
They fail to recognize what hurt you.
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We often confuse apologies for understanding, when in reality, they couldnt be further apart.
Gaslighting can make you feel crazyand its meant to.
This is a form of manipulation that tries to cast doubt on someones personal account of an event.
An example of gaslighting is when you confront someone and they say, That didnt happen.
Someone who gaslights will deny their words and actions.
This will make them appear as a victim.
Remember, there are always two sides to every story.
Youll never be able to have a genuine relationship with them because theyre unable to grow.
Theyre not supportive (in the way you need them).
Support looks different for everyone.
For some, its financial.
For others, its physical and emotional.
And in other cases, support can be as simple as an acknowledgement of your situation.
Sometimes all someone wants is an acknowledgement that theyre going through a tough time.
They dont want a lecture or advice.
They dont want platitudes that better days are headed to them.
What do you need?
We all deserve kindness, not to be kicked down when were at our lowest.
When someone does that, it just reinforces that they dont really care about you.
Its instead all about them.
When they expect you to make them a priority when its not appropriate.
5.They will claim its not what you said, but how you said it.
They hold a victim mentality.
Its easy to treat, but they have to want the help.
They dont respect your boundaries.
For example, you invite your friend and her spouse over for dinner.
Its an innocent invite, motivated in seeing that person and catching up with how theyve been.
For a toxic person, however, every invite has a subtext.
Manipulative people will do whatever they can to get you on their side and to have their needs met.
