Youre allowed to rant to them about your problems.
Youre allowed to show them the sides of yourself you usually keep private.
If there is a problem in your life, you should feel comfortable discussing it with them.
Claudia van Zyl
You shouldnt feel forced to keep secrets.
If youre in a serious relationship with this person, they deserve to hear what you have to say.
They should be there to support you when youre struggling.
They should be a shoulder to lean on when youre distressed.
They should be one of the rare people youknowalways has your back, no matter how bad things get.
If your person runs away as soon as things get hard, you shouldnt blame yourself.
You shouldnt feel like youve done something wrong.
You shouldnt wish you were less honest and upfront with them.
Its good that you were transparent.
Its good that you kept them in the loop.
You shouldnt feel pressured to hide bits and pieces of yourself.
You shouldnt feel pressured to lie to them.
You shouldnt feel pressured to pretend everything is fine because they will bolt the second things get complicated.
The right person will be there during your good times and bad times.
They will want you around, even when youre falling apart.
They wont run away when tears form in your eyes.
They wont leave you to deal with your problems by yourself.
They will consider your hardshipstheirhardships.
They will be your partner, your teammate, your rock.
You will get through your rough timestogether.
After all, serious relationships arent always going to be fun and exciting.
When you settle down with someone, youre there for their dark moments, too.
Youre going to see what happens when they have bad days.
Youre going to see what theyre like when theyre upset.
They cant be happy all the time.
They cant always be in a good mood.
The right person for you will understand that you are multifaceted.
you might be fun and flirty but you might also be dreary and dark.
You arent going to act exactly the same every single day and thats okay.
They arent going to be able to support you the way you oughta be supported.
Without them, it’s possible for you to find somebody new.
Somebody who will be there during your good and bad days.
