Moving on is difficult.
Breakups make you question yourself, they make you question your reality.
Especially when youre empathetic, especially when youre a hopeless romantic.
And while your healing may not always be linear, it is always there.
Breakups warp your memory.
Your heart is always going to leap towards those highlights.
And it is okay to remember those highlights.
You will never fully forget.
And you shouldnt want to, but you should take the time to remind yourself why things ended.
Why you had to walk away from someone you cared for.
Your relationship wasnt perfect.
And it had to end.
Breakups have nothing to do with worthiness, and everything to do with incompatibility.
When you care deeply, it is easy to convince yourself that you could have done more.
Sometimes, things simply just dont fit.
Sometimes, two people dont beat the odds.
Sometimes, two people outgrow each other.
Sometimes love changes, and sometimes someones capacity to give you the love they know you deserve changes.
Life is not black and white.
Love is not black and white.
Someone can be so ready, and then not at all ready.
Sometimes circumstance, or distance, or life gets in the way.
That is the messiness of it all, but none of that has anything to do with your worth.
Breakups are not losses.
Someone who genuinely wants to make your life a happier, sunnier version of what it is.
Wish for them to figure themselves out.
Wish for them to grow.
They are on their own journey, and that is okay.
Breakups are not losses.
Breakups have the capacity to show you what you liked, and what you didnt like in a relationship.
You always make decisions based on that knowledge and that worth.
Breakups give you an opportunity to get to know yourself again.
Yes, you might be alone right now, but alone doesnt have to be lonely.
Alone can be healing, alone can be transformative and foundational.
Endings dont have to be messy.
Sometimes, love doesnt win.
However, that is not something you should deem a failure, or something that should break your heart.
That is something to celebrate.
You chose to choose to believe that there were other things in store for your hearts.
Yes, breakups are hard but youve survived hard things before.
have a go at remind yourself of the wounds you thought you would never heal.
And now, remind yourself that you did heal those wounds.
Historically speaking, the odds are in your favor.
Youve survived hard things before.
you’re free to survive this.
