A relationship is little more than a partnership built upon support.
Sure, those butterflies that youre feeling are important, as is the physical chemistry that you share.
This is especially commonplace when love is involved.
Kyle Bearden
But we all have a breaking point.
The real issue is that we dont all have the same breaking point.
Some of us can just deal with more sh*t than others.
Kyle Bearden
Understanding these reasons and making changes to your actions accordingly is what we call compromise.
Youre not giving your partner the support he or she needs.
A relationship is little more than a partnership built upon support.
Sure, those butterflies that youre feeling are important, as is the physical chemistry that you share.
But theres nothing more important than the way you two support each other.
If you arent there for your partner when he or she needs you, then what good are you?
Not all of us have family and friends that help hold us up.
Those who dont rely especially on the person they love to be there.
If you wont let it be you, then itll be someone else.
Youre not giving your partner the space he or she needs.
Space isnt just physical.
Its mental and emotional as well.
We all want to feel independent (the keyword being feel).
When were in a partnership, complete independence goes out the window.
When we love someone, our happiness quite literally depends on that person.
However, we still want to feel free.
We want mental and emotional space to think, experience and enjoy other things and people in our life.
Our minds need space to allow for personal growth.
How much space or in what sense we need that space depends on the individual.
Youre either too jealous or not jealous enough.
Theres a right way to be passionate, and theres the wrong way.
Jealousy in particular is necessary for this.
Of course youd be hurt.
Youre not giving your partner the security he or she needs.
We, like other animals, are designed to need security.
Its one of our most basic needs, right up there with food, water and sleep.
If we feel insecure, our fight-or-flight response is triggered.
What exactly is security?
you better make him or her feel safe.
Again, how you make that happen will depend on the person you love.
Have confidence that you’re free to figure it out, because you’re free to.
Often at times, all it takes is a conversation.
Youre not helping your partner enjoy today.
We all have bad days.
On those days, we need our lover to help us understand why today is a great day.
We need our partner to cheer us up, to make us laugh and smile.
To be such a partner, you oughta be selfless.
you better overlook how sh*tty you may be feeling and focus on someone elses happiness instead.
Of course, this isnt always possible.
Sometimes, our own sh*t is piled so high that we cant see anything past it.
And all you oughta do is to make them happy in return.
Dont let the world weigh you guys down and possibly destroy something thats so beautiful.
Youre not helping your partner look forward to tomorrow.
Feeling good today is important, but its not as important as feeling good about tomorrow.
you gotta give your partner that.
it’s crucial that you give your partner hope.
Eventually, that horrible tomorrow that he or she is afraid of will make its way to today.
