Someones inability to respect you does not mean that you are not worthy of respect.
It stands for something.
It can leave us feeling hurt, and incredibly confused.
Joel Sossa
Why do we treat one another like this?
And I think that that is deeply affecting the way that we interact with one another.
To just walk away.
The social responsibility of doing something like that has also diminished.
There isnt much of a social cost to walking away from someone in such a hurtful way.
There was more urgency around ensuring that the way you exited someones life was graceful and kind.
And no one wants to do that.
Those conversations are so deeply hard.
They hang heavy in your chest.
They take a lot of courage.
A lot of human beings avoid these kinds of experiences, and moments, in their lives.
For those of you who are dealing with this right now I know how hard it can be.
That is why ghosting can weigh so heavily on a human heart.
You have to give yourself your own closure, you have to write your own ending.
And unfortunately, we automatically tell ourselves a negative story.
We make it about us.
We make it about lack.
Our deepest insecurities are almost scratched upon.
We mull over what we could have done differently.
I know what it is like to think that maybe you are hard to love.
I know how heavy it is.
To wonder if you were too much.
To wonder if you were not enough.
You dont have to apologize for being the person who cares.
You dont have to question if you are worthy of being loved, or chosen, or respected.
You have so much love to give that is good, and kind, and honest.
And I know that sometimes in this generation that can feel like both a beautiful and burdensome thing.
But as I always say, stay open.
kindly, do not let this convince you that you do not have something beautiful to offer others.
Dont close yourself off to the beauty because you have felt the pain.
I know that might be hard to sit with right now.
Someones inability to respect you does not mean that you are not worthy of respect.
Someones inability to be honest with you, does not mean that you are not worthy of honesty.
This is not about you.
This is not about you.
This is a them thing.
And how lucky are you to have been shown their character in that way?
Yes, it hurts.
Because ghosting is a behaviour that filters people out for you.
It truly comes down to that.
That self-justification is one of the biggest red flags you could ever receive in a connection, or relationship.
But it isnt easy.
I dont think anyone ever has the intention to deeply hurt another person.
I dont think that is the case at all.
It was never about you.
Repeat that again: it was never about you.
Its time to give yourself the closure you so deeply want from this person.
We spend too long in this life wishing people could be different than they are.
But we cant change people.
And we cant change the way they left our lives.
But we can control what we take from the experience.
We deserve goodness, and compassion.
We deserve that kind of love, that kind of friendship, that kind of connection.
We deserve to feel valued, and cared for.
We deserve to feel valued.
Someone could not meet that.
You want someone who can.
