I sat back and thought for a minute.
For context, wed been talking about two men who had hurt us.
In different ways, but wounds just the same.
Jasmine Chew
For her, it was definitely a connection that he decided to unplug the minute it got too real.
However, I was young for most of our interactions.
Also, bear with me.
Ive learned now.)
To be honest, does itreallymatter how a bruise came to be?
The point is, it still left a mark.
And thats all you should probably know that something mattered to you.
You have the ability to decide how much youll put up with.
And you do this by reciprocating in kind.
If you find you are always the one reaching out first, stop.
If you know they are only using you when you hang out, decline their invites.
If they take forever to respond to a text, dont rush to reply when they finally do.
This is not an easy feat.
Believe me, I know.
But you are smart.
You deserve more than half-assed effort.
And frankly, you dont have the time to be used.
Chasing those who do not want to be caught will only leave you gasping for air.
The pattern I realized was that this dude did not like me.
And would never follow through.
So I responded in a similar matter.
I unfollowed him on Instagram.
I do not reach out.
Hes saved in my phone as a nickname my friends came up with.
When he decides to creep back, which he probably will, Ill leave him on read.
Because lets face it, hes not listening anyway.
Now, for what its worth, Im all for sharing our feelings and communicating.
Eventually, you better settle with reality and accept that its just not going to work.
At some point, your want will fade.
You will miss them less.
You will realize you deserve more and only look for partners who can reciprocate with the same enthusiasm.
Matching the energy doesnt just work when youre trying to let someone go.
It helps you to fall in love with the right person, too.
The right person will deliver energy that feels like love, like care, like home.
You wont feel like someone they could take or leave.
Itll be calm and safe.
If they want you, youll know.
And until then, only give the energy youre receiving.
Its better than expending all you have on someone who frankly does not want or deserve you.
