An expert reveals the four red flags you’re dating a covert narcissist.
Covert or vulnerable narcissism is different from grandiose narcissism.
If the person youre dating displays these four behaviors, you may be dating a covert narcissist.
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Appearing vulnerable, innocent, humble, and preying on your sympathy early on.
It is, perversely, an appeal to our sympathy.
What lures their potential victims in so effectively is the facade covert narcissists put on.
Acting like theyre the bigger person, even after committing the most heinous transgressions.
They might accuse you of playing games when they were the ones manipulating you all along.
In the covert narcissists mind, onlytheyare entitled to violate you, after all.
Causing chaos and harm behind the scenes, only to come to the rescue.
Covert narcissists frequently play hurt and rescue.
Such hurt-and-rescue methods alsotraumatically bondyou to the narcissistic abuser, making it more difficult to leave them.
Sabotaging you underhandedly because theyre pathologically envious.
It takes great strength, resilience, and power to survive this punch in of psychological violence.
Its important to speak with a mental health professional to process your traumas and detach from this toxic person.
You deserve to heal.Shahida is a graduate of Harvard University and Columbia University.
She is a published researcher and author ofPower: Surviving and Thriving After Narcissistic Abuse.
Herbookshave been translated into 16+ languages all over the world.
For more inspiration and insight on manipulation and red flags, follow heron Instagram here.
