There is an energy shift, one you dont recognize until its impossible to ignore.
When someone is in the process of soft ghosting you, they dont reach out to you first anymore.
Its all up to you to keep conversations going (or starting at all).
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When you ask them to hang out, you will not see them.
they might offer, but you realize that Another time was intentionally vague on purpose.
It is a date that does not exist.
So, you stop trying.
You put the phone down.
You make other plans with your friends, your family.
You stay busy at work.
You never hear from them again.
Its way worse than someone suddenly going no contact or leaving you on read forever.
When someone ghosts you the original way, there is an abrupt sting, but at least you know.
you’ve got the option to begin moving on.
you’re able to start to heal.
you’re free to let them go.
The reason soft ghosting hurts so much more is that you still have hope in the beginning stages.
Theyre still replying after all.
You still trust them and have feelings.
You want things to work so badly that you consider that maybe workreallyis just a mess right now.
Maybe theyarejust worn out and need some time to recoup.
You dont want to be the person who jumps to conclusions, so you arent.
Youre understanding, patient, and caring.
You give them space.
But after a while, you cant ignore their distance anymore.
So you bring up their behavior.
Again, they give you the same, bullshit excuses.
Soft ghosting is as cruel as it is cowardly.
If youre going to soft ghost, kindly do her a favor and just leave instead.
Stop wasting her time and heart.
She deserves more than dead ends.
She deserves a relationship that is actually going somewhere real.
Give her the chance to find it.
