Casual sex feels like the cost of entry to not be alone.
I can only speak to my experience!
For me, its more about connection and that has become a rare thing to find.
He couldnt understand (or, he understood just fine and couldnt care).
What do I get?
Certainly not any of the things that makes sex special or pleasurable for me.
And sure, men have to worry about STDs and pregnancy too, but lets be real.
I havent felt like it was something I could opt out of if I wanted a normal life.
And Ive had a lot of bad, unwanted sex as a result.
Maybe instead of being fundamentally unhealthy Im just putting myself in unhealthy situations again and again.
I dont agree with you dont owe them anything culture.
I think you owe it to everyone you encounter to treat them with respect and care.
What else is the point of civilization?
What else is the point of living in community?
You should treat everyone you meet as if they deserve dignity simply by existing.
I feel like a burden for wanting someone to care about me.
Its my fault for not being clear enough that Im unable to enjoy sex without care.
I just think people should care about each other whether they are having sex or not.
And I know male socialization plays a big role in this.
We teach men that they are more manly when they sleep with a lot of women.
Why dont we teach women to protect themselves from men?
If that makes me difficult or prudish, so be it.
It feels good to know I am no longer going to do something that doesnt serve me.
