So be nice, be nice, until it’s time to stop being nice.
Then destroy them."
1.You will never have to live this day again.
Liana Mikah
She said this on my very first memorably bad day, coming home from school unable to stop sobbing.
I reuse it whenever trying to console someone after specific pains.
Just go out on a date, and have fun together, stop taking it so serious.
3.Happiness is just having something to look forward to.
You had your issues, mom, but this advice has served me well.
4.If you dislike someone for a character trait, verify you dont have the same one.
Things that annoy you in others, might be things you do yourself.
6.Look in the mirror and see if you see a friend in there.
If you dont, take a longer look and get the friend back.
Its not them that are changing, its how you see the world that is changing.
They werent changing, Id just never noticed that side of them before.
I think many teens should know that.
So be nice, be nice, until its time to stop being nice.
10.My mom said that I should listen to the advice I give to other people.
For years that didnt make sense, but recently all the pieces seem to fall in place.
Especially the advice I gave my mom, is now applicable to myself.
I guess the apple doesnt fall far from the tree in that regard.
12.Have more money than he does.
It sounds really sexist, and it is, but my mom was raised by an abusive father.
Really wish I took this to heart earlier.
Listen to it and either protect yourself or gtfo.
16.Act like you belong wherever you are.
17.Always listen to the other side of the story.
She told me to give everyone a fair chance because I would want the same.
I think she told me when I was 10 or so.
19.Always have enough money to get out of a situation and an exit strategy.
She said it about dates, but its good advice in general.
I used to be cronically late to nearly everything.
I had just never looked at it that way before.
Wish Mom would have laid into me sooner.
21.Water finds its own level.
22.You have to be happy being single before you might be happy in a relationship.
23.Dont rely on others for your happiness.
I found out the hard way that its unhealthy and puts a lot of pressure on relationships.
24.The world will send you where it wants you to be.
That was my mums take on fate.
25.Honey, never keep a man for rent.
I lost my shit and had a screaming fight with him and kicked him out then called my mom.
I took her advice and she was right!
26.We dont know who discovered water, but we know it wasnt a fish.
Trust your loved ones who arent immersed in water to tell you when something is wrong.
27.Marry your best friend.
28.That I dont have to justify anything I do to anybody else.
I was venting about this and my Mom gave the above advice.
29.Life isnt fair, deal with it.
Sounds pretty harsh but my parents are very straightforward people and honestly Ive used this a lot.
30.Put yourself in their shoes a reminder that everyone perceives life differently.
It has helped me be more empathetic even when I have felt wronged by someone.
Too many people only think about themselves, without even realizing that is what they are doing.
31.If you tell one lie, youll have to tell another, and another.
Its easier to tell the truth.
32.No one is as concerned with your appearance as you think they are.
33.No matter where you go, or what youre doing, someone will always be in your way.
Then one day I just decided thats just how he is, and not worth getting upset over.
It may sound like shes compromising, but I always took it as people are who they are.
35.Kill them with kindness.
Even if someone is being a dick to you, just respond by being very nice back.
It will make them look like an even bigger asshole and make you look good in the process.
36.She told me this in Hindi but it translates to: Never hurt someones heart.
37.Not my circus, not my monkey.
Which means, of its not your problem why are you worrying about it.
Worrying about it will make it your problem.
38.You are what you hang with.
Always made me critical of who I surrounded myself with after I really learned what she meant.
Basically keep good company.
39.If you ever want to do something just ask the worst thing they can say is no.
41.confirm he loves you more.
Ive been in two long term relationships, both of which were physically abusive.
I stayed, and I loved and I got hurt badly each time.
It was never the choice of the child to be born.
You chose for them to be alive.
But the sad fact is… its their choice.
43.You dont have the right to ruin anybodys day.
44.You cant kindly the world so you have to kindly yourself.
45.My two favorites from my mom:
Never trust anyone whose flaws you cant see.
It means theyre hidden deep.
Unless they hit first, then go to town.
Ive never been violent, but Im still glad I was told to stand up for myself.
48.My mom always said and has always taught me to respond to situations instead of react to them.
49.Sometimes you wont be in love with your husband.
But it will be your commitment to stay together that keeps your marriage working.
And then one day, you find yourself back in love with them.
50.You dont regret money spent on travel.
My mom was always kind of thrifty and we traveled cheaply, but we traveled.
Then she said, What about the trip we took the Grand Canyon that summer?
