You stay stuck on exes and almosts for so long because there is no closure.
There is no expiration date.
The moment when you’re about to move on.
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A reason behind why they left.
A way to make sense of it all.
Either that or they will ghost you so that there isnt any chance to answer your questions.
Instead of getting closure, you get screwed over.
You are swarmed with questions.
Did you do something wrong?
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Should you have moved faster, moved slower?
Did they meet someone new, reconnect with someone old?
You search for closure by staying up late and shuffling through your memories.
You think about the fights that youve had, the nasty words youve said.
You think about the best nights youve had, thekissesyouve shared.
You take a stab at pinpoint the moment where it all went wrong.
You attempt to find red flags from the past, ones that you never noticed in the moment.
Closure becomes a guessing game.
You have no clue what the truth is, so youre forced to come to your own conclusions.
To make up reasons why they gave you a goodbye.
Of course, you do your research.
You dig through social media.
You scour their Facebook and Instagram, looking for clues about why they decided to abandon you.
Do they keep liking a certain persons photos that theyve been crushing on?
Are they posting photos with someone new that theyve been seeing behind your back?
Do they look happier without you?
Or do they look like they miss you?
The confusion creates trust issues.
It makes you scared to love again.
You stay stuck on exes andalmostsfor so long because there is no closure.
There is no expiration date.
The moment when youre about to move on.
You never get the closure you need, you never officially move on, because there is always hope.
In the modern world, it feels like everyone breaks up.
Until you have a chance with them again.
