However, that within itself is an extremely difficult thing to do.
It is hard to stop caring.
And sometimes that lasts, and that is something I think every single person wishes for in life.
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And so they stay.
But at what point does that become self sabotage?
Because the truth is, sometimes love does change.
We add so much negativity to walking away.
And that is no ones fault.
Someone can be an absolutely incredible person.
You have to understand that you are not a bad person for not being able to make things work.
You are not a bad person for letting go.
it’s possible for you to care deeply for someone and let them go.
it’s possible for you to care deeply for someone and understand that you need space.
you’ve got the option to care deeply for someone and outgrow them.
You dont feel positive after being with them.
A positive relationship should mostly be uplifting.
You should be accepting of each other supportive, and responsive.
And in relation to that, do you change yourself around them?
You should never feel the need to be another person just to accommodate someone.
Do you feel like it’s possible for you to be yourself?
Like you are seen?
A quieter version of yourself.
A less evolved version of yourself.
And where does that leave you?
What is that cost?
When you feel like you cannot expand in a relationship, are you genuinely happy?
Kindness is what holds relationships together.
It is the kindness and good will toward each other.
Its being on a partners side, its being on their team.
Its the support, admiration, respect, dedication, and commitment you have with each other.
This doesnt happen all the time, the goodness doesnt generally disappear overnight; its erodes slowly over time.
This is what we talk about when we say we outgrow certain relationships in life.
This is the way I think a lot of us hurt one another.
This is a telltale sign that youve outgrown someone.
And you deserve that.
Its okay to realize youve outgrown this connection.
The energy flow between two people in most healthy relationships is generally fairly equal.
Remember one sided love is not love.
Relationships that are unbalanced in this respect tend to revolve around one person.
So ask yourself, do things in your relationship feel reciprocated?
Are you being emotionally taken care of, do you feel held?
Do you feel like this person in your life genuinely shows up and puts in effort?
Once this starts, it is a large indicator that you have outgrown someone.
You have to lay them down.
To the version of them you thought they could become.
It is okay to be honest with yourself here.
Having a heart that believes in someone is beautiful.
You might be in love with the idea of them, and unfortunately, that isnt love.
That is a sign you have outgrown someone.
You have to love someone as they are, no matter what.
If you cant, its time to walk away.
You have to stop carrying all of that potential within you.
It directly creates so many voids in our lives, voids that we immediately feel.
Human beings are museums of all of the people they once loved.
Loss is so measurable, it sticks to your bones.
But what if you do?
What if you let go, and you learn how to step into yourself?
You have to trust that growth.
You have to fight for it.
Nothing is ever black and white, even an action that might confuse, or hurt, you.
Ask yourself: does this person encourage clarity, and peace in your life?
Does this person make you feel seen, and understood, safe?
Do they make you genuinely believe in goodness, and in yourself?
Do they make you feel valued?
If they do, then that connection deserves to be in your life, it deserves your energy.
It deserves to be cherished.
That connection will never grow you.
