Breaking up with someone you’re not interested in anymore.
I used to say yes whenever somebody needed me or needed something from me.
I dont have to hang out with people I dont want to.
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No excuses necessary, the word no is enough.
People act like this is some mind boggling thing and its somehow rude.
2.Thinking about yourself first.
Youre no good to others if you arent good to yourself.
3.Cutting off toxic family members/in-laws.
Life is too short to allow abuse into your life because your abuser is a family member.
Every freaking time I do, SOMEONE has to say, Wow, must be nice.
Wish I could do that.
you might, Susan.
Dont buy lunch from work every day and you could easily do whatever it is that I did.
5.Calling out of work when youre really sick.
Sometimes its insanely healthy to be with yourself.
Sometimes the timing doesnt mesh with others lives.
7.Not having sex with your SO when you arent in the mood.
Took me too damn long to realize this.
8.Limiting contact with a friend whose issues are now affecting your own happiness.
You have to look out for yourself, too.
9.Being proud of your work.
Went through this in my first relationship ever and it was fucked.
Hes still alive so I know he was just trying to manipulate me.
11.Not donating money at drive-thrus, convenience stores, department stores, etc.
12.Keeping a snack/candy to yourself because you spent your own money on it.
13.Not wanting to go to your destination wedding.
14.Having deal breaker standards for potential partners.
15.Not responding to someones text.
Maybe youre just busy.
Ill never understand the arguments for it being selfish.
17.Not getting Christmas/Holiday gifts for people.
I barely eat to pay rent.
Im trying to save to get my car to where I go to school.
Im young but I just cant have a Christmas this year.
Thats the reality and its even more harsh for some people.
18.Breaking up with someone youre not interested in anymore.
19.Getting a prenup before getting married.
It protects both parties and it basically outlines what happens if there is a divorce.
It also sets boundaries in a way.
20.Not loaning money because it could potentially put you in a bad position.
People need to learn confidence from arrogance.
22.Healthy firm relationship boundaries.
23.Correcting someone who mispronounces your name.
25.Going to bed on time.
Some days that tiny bit of control lets me hold onto my sanity.
27.Wanting your housemates to keep the noise down.
Its common decency, honestly.
28.Breaking up with someone even when they havent done anything wrong.
29.Not covering for people at work…
Because you just dont want to.
Good friends will understand that shit needs to get done, and sometimes that means missing out.
32.Taking a sick day, even if youre not sick.
Theres so much more to life than your job.
In the US, most companies are really stingy with time off.
We need to catch up with Europe, and understand that people work better when theyre happier.
Sometimes you just need to get away from work.
Take care of yourself.
33.Choosing to have an abortion.
34.Taking care of and looking out for yourself.
Im tired of doing things for people and never get anything in return.
Tired of being taken for granted and advantage of.
I might as well be invisible because I feel like it.
35.Not having a large wedding with a wedding party and family who wants the wedding done their way.
My husband and I are homebodies.
We dont drink or party and never really have.
10 years ago we were planning a wedding and canceled it.
My family wanted it to be a huge party with lols of alcohol.
We live in a warm climate and they are in the North.
We bought a house instead and have never looked back.
We got married on a beach by a justice of the peace.
Was beautiful and intimate.
My family still to this day is bitter and calls us selfish.
36.Refusing to work late without pay.
37.Not wanting to go to a funeral for somebody that wasnt family or a really close friend.
Just wasnt my space.
38.Not wanting to let you try my meal at a restaurant.
People get flack all the time for this, like you must be selfish and heartless to end things.
Its better for both parties if you end things before they get any worse.
40.Refusing to drink with a group or otherwise get fucked up.
Thankfully Ive since found better friends.
41.Not tipping your Starbucks barista.
Fuck that, its expensive enough as is so take it up with corporate if youre not getting tipped.
42.Not buying overpriced popcorn from Boy Scouts.
Id rather just give you cash.
At least Girl Scout cookies are 6 bucks.
43.Putting your mental health first.
44.Doing whatever it is you oughta do to heal, preserve, or strengthen your soul.
45.To my family apparently, just sitting contently in silence.
Apparently Im rude for not wanting to join in their inane conversations.
Yeah, fuck that.
Me: Hey, guys, I ordered a $10 salad, Im not paying $235.
I guess that is not really selfish, just sticking up for yourself.
What co-diner would be pissed if you said this?
No one will judge you.
Source: Happened to me once.Once.
So, for you youngsters, they say you should learn from others mistakes?
That way, you’re free to pass.
Thats the other thing I learned and do.
Hey, is this a pay your own way, or split equal deal?
Im a light eater and dont want to pay $235 for a $12 salad.
Thats what you say.
In a joking way, but makes the point.
This is if youre not going out for some important meeting with your bosses bosses boss.
Or something like that.
Thats a different situation.
47.Not wanting to contribute to the leaving gift for a coworker that you barely knew.
48.Cutting ties with toxic people.
Caregiver burnout can lead to psychoses, heart attacks, strokes, and suicide.
These diseases can cause sufferers to become abusive and violent.
Its sad and causes so much guilt and anguish, but thats the reality we must live with.
50.Telling your family no when you feel you have maxed out your contribution to whatever cause they are campaigning.
Especially when their methods of negotiation include applying guilt.
