“It’s the only way to leave.
‘I don’t love you anymore.
In this Specific Situation/This Thing, Someone left me.
Vince Perraud
And then just a handful of months after that Someone left me, Someone Else did.
And then after the Someone Else left, Another Someone left.
The person who wasnt held onto.
I was the person who was left.
Theres something incredibly uprooting and rattling about being left.
In my opinion and experience, its very different than a clear cut rejection.
Vince Perraud
Rejection, as much as it can sting and bruise your ego, is instant.
Its a clean break and doesnt even allow the possibility for something to grow.
Leaving means, obviously, that you are leaving something that currently exists behind.
Something that will have to figure out how to exist in a new, you-less world.
Something that will have tobewithout you.
So being left is obviously, in a way, traumatic.
Im not same person I was in 2013.
For a very, very long time I was very, very angry.
I was angry at the first Someone for not only leaving but for how he chose to do it.
For making you feel that way.
When Ive been the one responsible for inflicting that sort of shaken up world on someone else.
I dont love you anymore.
Even when youre the person who theyre walking away from when they do it.
Well the reality is if someone leaves you, you have to respect their decision and let them go.
If anything, it means youre not progressing.
It means its not their fault for leaving, but it is your fault for refusing to let go.
When I was 23 it was very easy for me to believe that I was impossible to leave.
