Love isnt about keeping score.
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Updated 4 years ago,December 4, 2020
Ive always been fascinated by love.
Ive often wondered what love actually is.
Jake Dela Concepcion
How does one describe the feeling?
What are the symptoms?
And are they the same for everyone?
I think of love as describing a color.
You cant, really.
you might point at a nearby tree and say, Thats green.
But describing the color always leads to further comparisons.
The same goes for love.
We can read novels and listen to songs.
We can watch a couple pass us by on the sidewalk.
We can watch romantic movies that make us feel.
But everyone just guesses as to what love is.
Ive been in relationships where I thought I was in love.
Then I began new relationships and decided the former was not love.
And I dont think Im alone in this.
All anyone can do is guess at what love might be through experience, error, and vulnerability.
That can seem scary, putting your heart out there, unsure of where it might land.
But when you do find the elusive feeling, love makes the journey worth it.
Love Isnt A Game
Love isnt about keeping score.
Its not a back and forth of who can one-up who.
Theres no time to wait to text back and no reason to act like you dont care.
Love is when youre on the same team.
Sure, you may disagree, but your goal is the same.
You want the best of one another and the relationship.
Love Isnt Forced
Love isnt coerced.
Its not something it’s possible for you to make someone feel.
Its also not something you should dread having in your life.
Its not always easy, but theres no question of whether either person wants to be in it.
You look forward to your time spent together.
Love Isnt Crying on the Floor
Love isnt a rollercoaster.
Its not passion in the form of fights that end in tears.
Love is supportive, caring, and selfless.
Its wanting the other persons happiness.
Passion looks like supporting each other and loving unconditionally.
Love Isnt Rushing Through Milestones
Love isnt a race.
Its not measured by how quickly you move in together.
Your devotion is not determined by how quickly you walk down the aisle.
Love unfolds at its own pace.
Its feeling secure with one another to make decisions when youre both ready.
Love Isnt Becoming One
Love isnt about finding the person that completes you.
Its not about enmeshing with your partner.
Love is about being whole with another whole person.
Its about loving yourself as much as you love your partner.
Your love is made stronger by being the best version of yourselves, and you both support that individuality.
Love Isnt Ownership
Love isnt marking your territory.
Its not trying to keep everything to yourself.
Love is respecting your partners life outside of the relationship.
Its knowing youre both individuals with differences that are respected.
You dont belong to each other; instead, you choose each other.
Love Isnt Conditional
Love isnt expecting things to fit into a neat box.
Its not loving one day and withholding it the next.
Its accepting that sometimes youll have bad days.
Its supporting each other through those hard times, instead of hurting one another.
Love Doesnt Hurt
Love isnt throwing word daggers at your partner.
Its never causing pain to each other.
Love is about helping one another avoid pain.
Its realizing that sometimes your words accidentally hurt your partner and apologizing because you care for them.
Love Isnt The End Of The Story
Love isnt about reaching a happily ever after.
Theres no end goal to reach.
Love is a lifetime.
Its working through obstacles that come your way.
Its choosing to care for your partner every day.
Love Isnt Perfect
Love isnt pristine and shiny.
Love is arguing and disagreeing.
Its learning to admire each other in new ways when your partner surprises you.
Its an adventure of unknowns that you wouldnt want to do with anyone else.
People may not be able to define what love is but at least we know what love isnt.
