Love means putting yourself out there.
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Updated 4 years ago,April 18, 2021
Love means vulnerability.
Love means putting yourself out there.
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It means saying, Hey, this is mewant to get to know me for real?
Love means Ill be brave enough to show you inside no matter how uncomfortable that might be.
I have spent a good portion of my life thinking it was smart to avoid men.
It made me feel in control.
No reaction would be one that is unpredictable.
No one would be able to hurt me.
No one would have the room be disappointing.
I wouldnt have to put my heart on the line.
I wouldnt have to question whether the person I am is desirable enough or not.
I wouldnt have to face myself in that context.
Of course thats not how I said it to myself.
My narrative was always, I am comfortable this way.
I am not needy.
I dont need a man in my life.
I am quite fine without love.
It should come knocking at my door, make me feel secure and scoop me up.
I wouldnt have to do anything.
I used to blame the guy.
He should approach me even when I am not approachable.
He should try harder.
Until one day, it hit me that I was being completely unreasonable.
I realized I was sabotaging myself.
I was the loser in the game.
I was pushing guys away without realizing.
People are not there to save you.
They are not there to do your inner work for you.
They are not there to prove anything to you.
Were all equals here, especially if you want a healthy relationship.
Making a move is cool.
And finding out whether the person likes you early on saves you a lot of time.
People are not actors in your script, theyre human beings.
So yes, maybe putting yourself out there will be hard at first.
It will be worth it.
Use that heart and strengthen it.
Be part of its success.
