But sadness crept back in with a fresh sting.
I was hurting, trying to stay above water and fighting through waves of self-doubt.
When their true self was revealed, I realized I let go of someone else.
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I tried to make a clean break, but he insisted otherwise.
I didnt wait for him, necessarilynot consciously, anyway.
I thought if we stayed in contact, eventually, when his circumstances changed, hed choose me.
I was so sure of something I was so wrong about.
I learned that was never part of his plan.
His actions spoke louder than his words, and he quickly chose someone else instead.
I think thats the most frustrating part of dating, trying to find honesty.
Its something so simple yet so challenging to find in relationships today.
Thats why moving on comes with so many roadblocks.
Often, we dont know what were moving on from.
When lines are blurred and communication is scattered, its tough to clarify.
Letting go of a misconception of a person only prevents you from releasing the reality of that person.
Remember, when you face rejection, anger is appropriate.
When anger is in control, it can hurt you.
Theres no room for them on the path to healing and the road forward.
This means you cant look for closure from them as a way to open things back up.
That starts with thinking differently.
Maybe youll never be enough for them, but thats exactly why they were never enough for you.
Theyve moved on, so let them go.
You dont need to look for answers.
Be mindful of where your thoughts and energy are being used today.
If you find yourself backtracking and reminiscing, thats okay.
Any of these thoughts will keep your mind moving forward.
Negative experiences can shape you without staying with youor controlling your present.
Be grateful for your open heart and know that you will feel that spark again.
You are worthy of undeniable reciprocation.
