Manipulation appeals to them because such tactics allow them to hold onto power and control in the dynamics ofdating.
Similarly, narcissistic individuals also manipulate and exert control over others.
If, for example, your date says something like, Nice earrings.
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My grandmother wears those, or That dress is quite brave, or, Youre an engineer?
Do they just let anyone into those programs?
If you are being negged or feel on edge around a dating partner, its important to detach.
This is not someone with the maturity to connect authentically with you.
The dread game and love triangles.
System to take a stab at win over the affections of the pharmacist hes dating, Caylee.
Physical escalation or kino escalation.
When it comes to first dates, pick-up artists engage in what is known as kino escalation.
This is when they begin to push the boundaries of physical touch to get you more comfortable with them.
Quite an exploitative way of thinking.
when it comes to kino escalation on the first date.
They should feel liberated to do whatever they desire.
Premature emotional intimacy and the 7-hour rule.
Both pick-up artists and narcissists push for premature emotional and physical intimacy.
Resist disclosing personal details when a date reveals intimate information so prematurely.
Anchoring and neurolinguistic programming.
This is a way to condition you to feel safe and joyful with them whenever theyre seducing you.
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