What’s holding you back more than anything is the self-belief that these things are true.
The same thing happens to you mentally.
Theres something in psychology called an anchoring bias.
Kelsea Kosko
You are probably anchoring yourself to a version of yourself that you used to be.
One that does not exist anymore.
One that was crafted not from true self-understanding, but what you learned and adapted from other people.
Their beliefs, their reactions, their responses, and even worse, their opinions of you.
If youve had a pattern of being anxious, youll think youre an anxious person.
If youd had a pattern of bad relationships, youll think youre an unlovable person.
If youve had a pattern of bad grades, youll think youre unintelligent.
Whats holding you back more than anything is the self-belief that these things are true.
If you think youre an anxious person, youll continue to be anxious.
If you think youre bad at relationships, youll still be bad at them.
If you think that youre not smart, youll continue to perform poorly.
you might change the story.
You get to write the story here.
You get to decide.
But first, you have to realize that nobody is forcing you to hold onto this baggage but you.
Nobody is tethering you to the past but you.
Do you remember every past version of who someone else used to be?
Of course you dont.
You see them for who they are now.
You have to give yourself the same space to grow.
You have to meet yourself where you are.
Every day, you get a clean slate.
Extract the lessons from what youve been through and use them to build your new, beautiful life.
