Why must we do this, I hear you ask?
Because apparently if we dont, we will be seen as needy, clingy and overly emotional.
Some people do possess unrealistic expectations from their partners, but thats for another post.
Arthur Brognoli
This one is about the things that are NOT needy.
Stating what you are looking for.
It shows confidence and saves you a lot of time-wasting.
Dont make a run at change their mind, or worse, show anger.
The other person is entitled to their wants and needs just as much as you are.
It is not needy to let someone know youre unhappy in the relationship.
Clear and honest communication is incredibly important and you should never be afraid to express your thoughts.
Having needs does not make you needy.
But you oughta remember, people are not mind-readers.
just dont act passive-aggressively or exhibit anger if they cant figure out whats bugging you.
You have to speak to them.
It is not needy to ask for compromise.
Compromise is necessary in a relationship, and there is such a thing as a healthy compromise.
Making compromises can strengthen whatever you have.
However, you oughta know the difference between small and big compromises.
It is not needy to wonder about the future.
Again, its another way of saving time and feelings.
Telling someone you care about them.
Many of us fear rejection and thats normal, but life is too short.
If you care about someone, let them know.
If they dont feel the same way?
Texting them first.
If they take days to respond to your message, it is not needy to ask them why.
And if they still ignore you or dont understand where youre coming from, lose them.
It takes someone less than 30 seconds to send a text saying theyre currently busy and cant text much.
Stop saying sorry for being a normal human who wants love, respect and acknowledgment.
You will never be seen as needy for the right person because theyll be right there with you.
Youre not needy for wanting a phone call, a text back, some sort of plan or commitment.
Youre not needy for asking where you two stand or what your relationship means.
Youre not needy for wanting the person you care about to be more present in your life.
And anyone who makes you feel otherwise is simply not the right one.
As I lived with this mentality, I was endlessly involved in situationships that left me miserable.
