Why do so many young people see that as an option today?
As if limbo could be a preferred relationship status.
The good news: I am continuing to evolve.
Edward Eyer
Dating as a twenty-something in two major cities has proven equally entertaining as its been strenuous.
I was excited to feel excited about someone who didnt seem capable of hurting me.
He was great, but it took some time for me to realize that he wasnt great for me.
His kindness and good intentions motivated me to stick around, excited to explore where this could lead to.
We both had jobs, and our jobs kept us busy and slightly distracted.
With nowhere to go or much to do, we were comfortable dating at-home.
Then, time caught up with us.
It wasnt that I ever thought he was someone capable of enforcing police brutality.
I was hurt by the guy that, I thought, couldnt hurt me.
Discussions led to disagreements, which led to arguments.
But we discussed, disagreed, and argued while drifting further away between each conversation.
I spoke up without any regret, and that was ultimately what ended our relationship.
He wanted us to slow things down, perhaps pause a bit.
Most importantly, what were the two lessons I extracted from this relationship?
Keep being difficult, keep being honest, and keep saying what you want to say.
Keep learning about things you dont know, and keep having uncomfortable conversations.
I think so many of us are driven to complacency to make a relationship work.
It would have been effortless for me to blame myself.
You do not scare off someone that wants to make it work.
No one deserves a relationship like that.
Do not settle for less than.
Unleash your voice, thoughts, and opinions.
Move forward with yourself, and eventually, the right person will be standing beside you.
