Whenever I was with him, I felt popular because he knew everyone.
Our relationship had a lot of drama.
Every reconciliation made me feel like we were getting stronger when I was only sinking deeper.
Sandrachile .
We were the definition of a dysfunctional couple that everyone knew should break up.
Looking back, I think I enjoyed the chaos because I had always lived a safe life.
It made me think of the first time we fought.
It did not help my anxiety and my insecurity.
Our interaction basically caused a scene.
I said, Dont you dare leave!
He kept walking away.
I was THAT girl.
I could have followed him to save what was left, but I decided not to.
I felt abandoned and ashamed, but mostly I was afraid.
I was afraid to be alone.
About 12 hours later, he came back and apologized.
My heart told me to forgive him, but my ego wanted me to stay strong.
If he could walk out of me once, he would do it again.
Still, I forgave him.
I believed in making things work.
I believed in fighting to save relationships.
Men can be very black or white.
Sometimes all you have to do is open your eyes.
But he did not understand and did not care.
Deep inside, I knew we were over.
Fast forward a few years and I am in another relationship that feels a lot more stable and normal.
It did not have the same madness as the previous one.
Dont get me wrong, it is not all sunshine and rainbows, but it is real.
I felt like he would walk away in the same way.
One night, we got into a fight for reasons that had been building up over the months.
Walking away from someone will never be appropriate.
It is one of the cruelest things you’re able to do to someone you say you love.
Leaving someone hanging shows your lack of respect and consideration for the other person.
I need to leave now, but I will come back to talk to you, he said.
I will not leave you hanging.
That was shocking to meI did not expect that.
I felt a sense of relief because I did not feel disrespected.
Walking away from anyone in the middle of the fight is never rightit makes things even worse.
Waiting for the next day was brutal.
He came back the next day and said what we both did wrong in the situation.
He explained everything as objectively as he could.
I felt uncomfortable during this talk, but I was okay with it.
I felt okay about not having to be completely right.
I did not feel the need to win the fight.
I will not walk away from you when you ask me not to.
I will not give up on you just because you are going through a hard time.
That is all I needed to hear.
Giving up on someone who needs you is a form of betrayal that is hard to forgive.
Being vulnerable always felt like a weakness to me.
They do not leave you when you truly need them.
I cried after what he said.
I was hoping for it but not expecting it.
They always have your back.
It is a choice you make to love someone and make them feel safe without the empty threats.
He did not give up on me and walk away when I needed him because he loves me.
That is real love.
Only the person who truly loves you will not walk away from you when you ask them not to.
I will always be there when you need me, and I will never walk away from you.
