A narcissistic person will appear to be on your side when youre bending over backwards to meet their needs.
Some do so more covertly.
Or they may covertly flirt with someone they know you dislike, just to see you squirm.
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They consistently play the victim in situations where they violated you.
Emotional manipulatorstend to use sob stories whenever theyre held accountable for their inappropriate behavior.
To them, such accountability and responsibility is akin to a Shakespearean tragedy.
They set you up for sabotage, while pretending to support you.
Anarcissistic manipulatorwho seems nice will pretend to support you while underhandedly setting you up for sabotage behind your back.
Do their words match their actions consistently?
If theyre jealous or envious, do they take the steps to sabotage or support you?
These questions are necessary to ask if you are around a potentially toxic person.
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