Why do we settle for love and attention that is just temporary or okay?
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Updated 5 years ago,June 28, 2020
I was tired of settling for just okay love.
I had plenty of friends whod found happiness with people who were less than one.
Pablo Heimplatz
I think its our fear that kicks in, our fear of being alone.
Why is that considered enough?
Why do we settle for love and attention that is just temporary or okay?
I do it far too often where I flirt with temporary happiness simply because I want to feel something.
I was listening to a new track from Aly & AJ, Good Love.
Its a dose of 80s cinema wrapped around lyrics about waiting for the right kind of love.
You grow weary of smiles and late night text messages, falling into the cycle of comparison.
You wait for the warnings signs to leave before you get left.
I look back and realize that isnt how you should live in the waiting space.
You want to be able to bring a complement into a relationship not seek out completion in one.
Thats what these temporary highs give us, a sense of belonging no matter how fleeting.
Lately, I feel like I would rather wait, not settle.
Instead of trading love yous and time, press pause.
Maybe it means youre alone but not lonely a little longer.
We should embrace our single season and then we can fully embrace our season of being in a relationship.
Good love is out there, its just waiting for the third act to make its appearance.
