After all, conflict was the main focus of every romantic comedy I watched growing up.
Every romance novel I read.
Every TV show, every dramatic story, every think piece it all centered around drama and fighting.
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Fighting for each other.
Fighting over each other.
Fighting to make it work with each other, when the going got tough.
We are raised to believe that the kind of love worth having is difficult.
And I am here to call BS on all of that.
It shouldnt be your main source of agony.
It shouldnt even be a major one.
But the truth is that the person whos right for you wont be hard to love.
Because the right kind of love feels easy.
It feels like agreeing much more often than disagreeing.
Like building each other up much more readily than you tear each other down.
The right kind of love isnt centered around conflict its centered around harmony.
Around facilitating one anothers growth.
Around supporting each other through challenges.
Around bringing out the best in one another, and working through the worst as a team.
In any relationship, conflict is bound to arise.
Because theres nothing romantic about being the couple who just cant make it work.
In real life, thats just an ongoing waste of time and energy.
In real life, thats healthy for absolutely no one.
Because love shouldnt be about conflict.
It shouldnt be about agony.
It shouldnt be dramatic and messy and painful, more often than its easy and free.
Loving the person youre with should feel as natural as breathing, most days.
It should be simple and effortless to love them.
It should be easy more often than its hard.
It should be straightforward more often than its complicated.
And if its not any of those things, chances are youre not in the right kind of relationship.
Because the right kind of love feels easy, even in its most trying hour.
And that kind of love is absolutely worth holding out for.
