Putting effort into your relationship also means making sure your own mental health is okay.
It means putting effort into taking care of yourself.
It means putting yourself high on your list of priorities.
Davids Kokainis
It means more than sending the first text.
It means more than checking in with your person to check that theyre doing okay.
When you enter a serious relationship, you shouldnt suddenly stop caring about everything aside from your person.
You shouldnt dedicate all of your time and attention to them and leave none left for yourself.
You dont have to choose one over the other.
You dont have to sacrifice your wants and needs for them.
If youre in the right relationship, you should have enough energy for them and for yourself.
You deserve to feel whole, even when your person isnt in the room.
You deserve to feel successful and fulfilled.
You deserve to feel like you actually have your shit together.
You cant forget about your own happiness because youre too busy trying to make them happy.
You cant live to make it hey them.
You have to live for yourself, too.
Besides, you cant expect your forever person to stick with you no matter how you treat yourself.
No matter how many mistakes you make.
No matter how much you spiral.
You cant expect their love for you to overshadow everything.
They arent going to stay if youre treating yourself terribly.
They arent going to stand by and watch you destroy yourself.
They want to watch you shine, not suffer.
Part of a healthy relationship is keepingyourselfhealthy.
You have to work on yourself.
You have to take care of yourself.
You have to put effort into bettering yourself.
You deserve love, too.
From your personandfrom the person staring back at you in the mirror.
Dont forget to leave a little love for yourself.
