Certain milestones pass, and the longer youre sad, the more hopeless you feel.
He wasnt your husband or anything you are so young youre going to meet so many guys.
Meeting guys isnt the problem.
Jon Ly
Yeah, breakups are INSANELY TRAGIC!
Over the past few months, Ive witnessed my friends struggle with this issue.
Im not feeling better yet.
Jon Ly
Why arent I feeling better yet?
and Id like to tackle the question: How long are yousupposedto feel like shit for after a breakup?
Society tells us to move on.
You have to move on.
However, I feel like theres this pressure to FEEL BETTER, while youre living your life.
Certain milestones pass, and the longer youre sad, the more hopeless you feel.
When my first boyfriend and I broke up, I met my second boyfriend 4 months later.
Im a game girl Im going for it!
When he texted me, I responded.
If he called, I would pick up.
Although, in the above scenario, I was confused by my feelings.
Am I only ok with us being broken up because Im distracted?
I didnt happen to meet someone new that I liked.
I got very sick and had to adjust my job to work from home.
Well the joke was on everyone, because I did not talk to him for an entire year.
And I felt THE EXACT SAME WAY.
I felt as dead inside as I did the night we broke up.
So I called him.
We met up and started kind of seeing each other for a month or so.
When the topic of where it was going came up, he literally said to me.
Do you think Ive changed?
I knew the answer was no.
But there are certain facts that still remain: I tried downloading Bumble, I wasnt ready.
There are still songs I cant listen to.
I dont like when something reminds me of a good time we had.
I dont want to see a picture of him.
I dont want to run into him.
I dont want to call him and I dont want him to call me.
I went to a restaurant that we used to go to, and it bugged me.
And when youloseyour best friend, these things are allowed to bother you.
You know your mind and body better than any societal standard.
There is a healthy and functional middle ground between being crippled by grief, and being completely over it.
And this isnt to say youll be sad forever.
You will get better!
So dont get discouraged, and dont feel pathetic.
Losing someone is hard.
