She suffered from mental illness and addiction problems.
But wow, was I wrong.
My stomach began twisting.
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Thoughts flooded my head.
And just like that, I immediately questioned if I perhaps did something to provoke this.But I didnt.
After much contemplation, I told her she could bring her new husband to our wedding.
This was a man I didnt know at all and had only heard awful stories about.
But I couldnt stop looking at the text.
Before I responded, my sisters tried contacting her.
All of her excuses were invalid and disgusting.
My mom has done a lot of messed up things, but this one hit me hard.
She has never sought out help for her addiction problems or mental illness.
Im slowly coping in various ways.
1.Remind yourself that everything happens for a reason.
Listen to music, paint a picture, hit the gym.
Write about it describe the painful details.
3.Focus on thepeople who ARE there for you.
The people who love and support you.
Surround yourself with those people.
Those people can help make that heartache subside and can bring a smile to your face.
4.Get some distance, take some space.
Your parent hurt you, you deserve all the space it’s crucial that you move on from that.
Focus on all of that and try your best to not get dragged down by their actions.
You will never be able to change your parent or their behavior.
That acceptance will free you from their restraints.
Itll free you from the burden and weight they put on your shoulders.
7.Move on without them.
Chances are, youve done just fine without them anyway.
You dont need them anymore; youre stronger without them, and you deserve better.
8.Be patient with yourself.
A parent is supposed to be our go-to human, our source of comfort and advice.
When that turns on you, it can be hard to handle.
check that yougive yourself time to heal.
It probably wont go away overnight.
Go easy on yourself.
Grieve, do something that brings you joy, and let yourself be sad for a little while.
And whenever youre ready, pick up the pieces and move forward.
