But its important to remember you are allowed and should put yourself and your own needs first.
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Updated 5 years ago,September 14, 2020
Your heart is in the right space.
You love the feeling of making others happy.
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You like being the one people can always count on.
You often cater to someone elses needs before your own.
You like knowing you might be the reason someone else feels loved, cared for, and simply happy.
But trying to be everything for everyone all the time can also be draining for you.
But its important to remember you are allowedand shouldput yourself and your own needs first.
Just like a gas tank, we too need to confirm we refuel ourselves regularly.
Constantly giving and giving can be tiring and consequently bad for your own mental state.
It can slowly leave you questioning if someone would do the same for you in return.
It can make you believe you must always give to get to win people over.
It can falsely lead you to relationships that are one-sided.
It can become so addictive that you become obsessed with the feeling of being needed by others.
But thats not necessarily the case.
If left unchecked, one day you will simply run out of gas.
You will likely hit a stopping point and be left to breakdown.
The truth is you do not need to put all of that pressure on yourself.
You dont need to be everything for everyone.
Learn to make a commitment to whats most important to you instead of just for others.
Take your time on this earth to focus on what makes you feel alive, fulfilled, and joyous.
Learn to say no if it begins to drain you.
Saying no isnt always easy in the moment, but it is a necessary word for balance.
Learn to not be anyone elses doormat.
You do not need to be walked all over just because you are a people pleaser.
Its okay to set limits.
Instead, focus on loving your whole self first.
Loving your body, your mind, and your soulloving it all.
Even if this feels wrong to you, it is not.
