Falling in love doesnt make us scared.
Vulnerability and intimacy make us feel scared.
Love is a beautiful thing.
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The passion, the romance, the chemistry between you and the other person.
Why, then, are we so scared of falling in love?
Im scared of letting down my guard and letting another person truly see me.
Im scared of opening my heart and letting love in, because theres a risk of getting hurt.
Im scared of being raw and unfiltered.
Were scared of the uncertainty of opening up ourselves to another person.
Were scared of taking the risk in case it doesnt work out.
Were scared of the emotional exposure that comes with intimacy.
You need courage to be vulnerable.
Opening up your heart?
Exposing yourself emotionally and being intimate?
Were more comfortable flirting through emojis and quick Snapchats versus building that flirting muscle IRL.
Vulnerability and real intimacy doesnt happen through apps and screens and real courage isnt expressed that way, either.
Real vulnerability and courageousness is letting someone else see your real and raw self.
The bloopers, mishaps, mistakes, and behind-the-scenes rather than those Instagram highlight reels.
Another reason why youre scared to fall in love?
Youre scared to lose control.
We like to be in control of things.
Thats not how love,or relationships work.
Where will things go and how will they go?
You will just have to wait and see.
You cant control the other person or the outcome.
you might influence it, of course, but you cant obsessively control it and micromanage it.
But you know what?
Some things just cantand shouldntbe controlled.
Some things are worth losing control over.
We all dont know what were doing, and were all taking a risk.
Let yourself be vulnerable.
Let yourself experience real, raw, and heart-opening intimacy, and let yourself lose control.
Itll be worth it.
