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Updated 10 months ago,July 4, 2024
Imagine something crazy for me, quickly.
Thats a sad thing that Im asking you to think of, Im aware.
I know, I know.
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Youre not fanciful like everyone else.
You dont believe in soul mates.
But you were expecting to meet someone you liked a fair amount.
We all hope that.
Because heres the thing about finding love it affects us constantly.
And we all loathe admitting it.
But love is on the forefront of our actions even when its not on the forefront of our minds.
Its the reason you bought those new jeans last week.
Its the reason you went to that barbeque that you didnt want to go to last weekend.
Its the reason you sometimes feel cripplingly insecure and inadequate and scared about everything thats coming next.
Loves what inspires most of your greatest changes.
What about your daily routine would you alter?
What about your long-term plans?
Your first inclination may be to say Nothing.
After all, youre a smart person.
You have plans that dont involve someone elses influence.
But ponder it a few moments more.
The idea that someday somebody will love all our flaws is a subtle excuse not to work on them.
The principle of two halves making a whole restrains us from becoming our own better half.
Wed have to start doing everything differently.
If you knew that love would never be an option for you, what would be?
How would you structure the rest of your life?
Would it have a heavier focus on career, a stronger inclination toward success?
How would you get your blood pumping?
And what about your other relationships would they suddenly take on more weight?
What about your friendships?
Would you show up a little more often, share a little more of your life?
My inclination is to believe that never finding love would be a game-changer for most of us.
One wed initially consider to be devastating but may eventually realize is the ultimate liberation.
Without the fear of ending up alone, the opportunities open to you would become endless.
You could live on every continent.
You could scale the corporate ladder.
Love holds us back in an infinite amount of subtle ways that perhaps we do not even realize.
And the guarantee of its absence may just be the ultimate sense of liberation.
We could become everything weve been searching for.
We could construct our soul mates in ourselves.
Just be the person youve been waiting for.
Live your life as if you are the love of it.
You are going to be the person who shows up to accept your rewards.
You are going to be the person who holds your own hand when youre broken.
We have to start appreciating all that we bring to our own lives.
Because the ironic truth is, you are most attractive when youre not worried about who youre attracting.
So stop looking for The One to spend the rest of your life with.Be The One.
And let everybody else come searching for you.
